Showing posts with label Family Courts. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Family Courts. Show all posts
27 March 2012
23 March 2012
Time Has Ended, Bye
Meandering and wandering around online this morning looking for something inspiring to blog I found the video below on YouTube. It isn’t all that inspiring, so to speak, but it does go along with the theme of the post I did yesterday on exposing abusers for what they are.
The main point I want you to take away from watching this video is this: abusers manipulate every situation and will use their own kids to do so if that is how they can get the job done!!! When the Family Courts are trying to decide which parent would be ‘in the best interest of the child’ to have physical custody they really should pay attention to this type of evidence. It is a definite sign that a parent is abusive, and clearly does NOT hold their children’s best interest at heart.
Don’t just listen to the words being said in this video. Pay attention to the dates and times. From what it looks like to me, this child is supposed to get to talk to their mom for 15 minutes on certain days and after 2 to 3 minutes each call for months the child is told to end the call by someone in the back ground.
Our hearts go out to this child and his mother! If you happen to see this, know you are both in our prayers.
Do you have an abuser that needs to be exposed like Ray Knutsen?
29 April 2011
Complaint Letter about The Family Court System
Within the compass of this letter, I can do no more than indicate, as concisely as I can, relevant considerations that must be taken into account if we are to discuss Family Court's unconscionable rulings and decisions in a rational manner. Before I start, however, I should state that to understand what Family Court's particularly unrealistic form of adversarialism has encompassed as a movement and as a system of rule, we have to look at its historical context and development as a form of stinking politics that first arose in early twentieth-century Europe in response to rapid social upheaval, the devastation of World War I, and the Bolshevik Revolution. If you were to tell Family Court that we have to start talking with one another honestly, in honest language, it'd just pull its security blanket a little tighter around itself and refuse to come out and deal with the real world. As oppressive as Family Court's functionaries may be, they are also high-handed headcases. Perhaps one day we will live in a world where good people are not troubled by fear of adversarial goof-offs. Until that day arrives, however, we must spread the word that Family Court has announced its intentions to hasten the destruction of our civilization. While doing so may earn Family Court a gold star from the mush-for-brains irreligionism crowd, mass anxiety is the equivalent of steroids for it. If we feel helpless, Family Court is energized and ramps up its efforts to twist the history, sociology, and anthropology disseminated by our mass media and in our children's textbooks.
If anything, we must defy the international enslavement of entire peoples. If we fail in this, we are not failing someone else; we are not disrupting some interest separate from ourselves. Rather, it is we who suffer when we neglect to observe that Family Court justifies its brusque threats with fallacious logical arguments based on argumentum ad baculum. In case you're unfamiliar with the term, it means that if we don't accept Family Court's claim that everyone who scrambles aboard the Family Court bandwagon is guaranteed a smooth ride then it will twist my words six ways for Sunday. Family Court, get a life! Family Court's faculty for deception is so far above anyone else's, it really must be considered different in kind as well as in degree. Family Court yields to the mammalian desire to assert individuality by attracting attention. Unfortunately, for Family Court, "attracting attention" usually implies "wrecking our country, derailing our civilization, and threatening the human race with extinction".
If Family Court can't be reasoned out of its prejudices, it must be laughed out of them. If Family Court can't be argued out of its selfishness, it must be shamed out of it. Knowledge is the key that unlocks the shackles of bondage. That's why it's important for you to know that the time has come to choose between freedom or slavery, revolt or submission, and liberty or Family Court's particularly nit-picky form of quislingism. It's clear what Family Court wants us to choose, but if its neo-improvident, irritable positions became more widespread, it would spell the ruination of this country. Last but not least, most pundits are uncertain about the magnitude of the threat posed by Family Court's proposed social programs.
10 February 2011
Justice Denied
JUSTICE DENIED « MamaLiberty's Weblog
Press Release 02/08/11
World’s Most Famous Beach….World’s Most Scandalous Case
Florida Mother DENIED justice when Presiding Judge Torphy, Judge Evander and Judge Cohen REFUSED to Review Ruling En banc, Write Written Opinion, and Certify Questions to the Florida Supreme Court on 02/07/11
Constitutional and Human Rights Violations in Family Court Cases Rampant in the U.S.
In the “World’s Most Famous Beach”…Daytona Beach, Florida…………they also have the most scandalous case involving a wealthy millionaire, his power, money, and connections to the community that has most experts involved in the national crisis in the family courts regarding “custody visitation scandal cases” asking when will justice prevail for these Florida children and their Mother.
National advocates and organization’s are asking for federal investigations into the crisis in the family courts and have documented violations of litigants constitutional rights and are advocating for America’s children. The Leadership Counsel and Interpersonal Violence (www.leadershipcounsel.org) research shows that US family courts order about 58,000 children a year into unsupervised contact with physically or sexually abusive parents following divorce in the US.
Dr. Phil in April 2010 had the very 1st show regarding the family courts failure to protect abused children, and family court judges dismissing documented evidence of abuse, and taking away loving, caring Mothers.
Linda Marie Sacks, a “Squeaky Clean Mom”, is headed to the Florida Supreme Court and the U.S. Supreme Court in Washington D.C. in her continued efforts to be re-united with her children, and is speaking out about this injustice to her children, and the national crisis in the family courts. Her daughter’s teacher said..if you can lose custody, America better wake up, because if you can, anyone can. Her case is a Justice for Children case,(www.justiceforchildren.org)
and they are a national organization who advocate for children in abusive situations when “official avenues” judges, police, Dept of Children and Family, have failed to protect them.
On 12/21/10 she filed 3 pro se Motions asking the Fifth District Court of Appeals reconsider their 12/7/10 (Case 5D09-3752) ruling that has violated her constitutional rights to be a parent to her children. On 02/07/11, the Fifth District Court of Appeals, with Presiding Judge Torphy, Judge Evander and Judge Cohen, DENIED all of her Motions, and affirmed the erroneous ruling by the trial court of Judge Shawn L. Briese.
This is her second appeal before the court of appeals. In her first appeal, (Case 5D07-1682) the ruling on custody of her children was REVERSED AND REMANDED due to violations of this Mothers constitutional rights to due process and the opportunity to be heard. In their ruling they stated that Mothers hand written Motion for Continuance was legally sufficient, and should not have been denied by Judge Briese, and the hearing to decide custody of the minor children should NEVER have taken place. This rare reversal by an appeals court provided NO relief to Mother and her children as the trial court of Judge Shawn L. Briese refused to be disqualified from her case, or VACATE the unjust supervised visitation ruling.
Mother appealed to the Fifth District Court of Appeals in a Writ of Prohibition, (Case 5D08-3668) and provided documented evidence of judicial misconduct by Judge Briese, and the attorneys of record for the Father, James L. Rose of Rice and Rose, and Leonard R. Ross of Ross and Burden. The documented evidence of judicial misconduct included violations of Judges Canon #3, Fl. Ad Code 2.330, ex parte communication with the attorneys of record and violations of her constitutional rights. The Fifth District Court of Appeals DENIED her Writ and Judge Briese was allowed to hear the “Rehearing of the Custody of Minor Children” in April 2009.
In this hearing, (Case 2004-30312 FMCI) Judge Briese refused to allow Mothers witnesses to testify and refused to allow her exhibits. In his oral ruling he stated that mother did not buy greeting cards for children to give to the father, and mother did a Channel 9 news interview in New York and this was a concern to the court, and so she MUST continue to stay on Supervised Visitation. It WAS NOT a concern that Father admitted to an altercation with his daughter at 8 years old and this resulted in her getting a split lip and blood. This matched Mothers Domestic Violence Injunction of Protection, Police Reports and DCF reports. Father also admitted to “wiping down the vaginas” of his school age children, which also matched the Domestic Violence Injunction of Protection, Police and DCF reports. This credible evidence was DISMISSED, IGNORED and SUPRESSED by the trial court of Judge Shawn L. Breise, and now, DISMISSED, IGNORED and SUPRRESSED by the Fifth District Court of Appeals, as they have just AFFIRMED the trial court’s ruling.
With only 79 hours of contact in 3 years and 10 months…under Supervised Visitation at the local Family visitation center, for two hours a month……..this “squeaky clean” class Mom, soccer Mom, community volunteer, with no drugs, no alcohol, no abuse, nothing……just a loving, caring Mother lost custody of her children… will have to continue on with the Supervised Visitation, with NO case plan or reunification plan provided by the trial court. This Mother is the LONGEST family law referral in the history of the Daytona Beach supervised visitation center….now at 3 years and 10 months.
National Advocates, experts, and Mothers were in Albany, New York on Jan.7, 8,and 9th, 2011 for the Annual Battered Mothers Custody Conference,( www.batteredmotherscustodyconference.org) to address this national crisis of Mothers losing custody with documented evidence of abuse to their children, and safe, protective parents having all of their contact with their children either terminated by the family courts or are being place on supervised visitation for years without a case plan or reunification plan.
The trend documented by the latest research is that judges routinely dismiss, ignore and suppress documented evidence of abuse to the children in the “custody-visitation scandal cases”, and batterers are asking for Sole Physical Custody and are successful 70% of the time. www.apa.org/pi/viol&fam.hmtl and www.aja.ncsc.dni.us/domviol/pages5.html
The Florida NOW, National Organization for Women Ad Hoc Family Law Committee has published a brochure a “Crisis for Women in Family Court: What to Expect and How to Fight Back”. (www.nowfoundation.org/issues/family)
Numerous national organizations are demanding federal investigations into the crisis in the family courts and asking for congressional hearings to address these human rights violations to America’s children and their Mothers.
The latest research on this issue is in the book Domestic Violence, Abuse, and Child Custody Legal Strategies and Policy Issues Edited by Barry Goldstein, J.D. and Dr. Mo Therese Hannah. And can be found at www.civicresearchinstitute.com/dvac.html
Linda Marie’s daughters said “Mommy fight for us and do something every day to get us back and don’t ever stop. So after 3 years and 9 months, this Florida Mother is now more determined than ever, and is headed to the Florida Supreme Court and then on to the U.S. Supreme Court. She has kept her promise to her daughter’s and now she is speaking up for her children and all of America’s children.
For more information on this crisis in the family courts please contact:
Center for Judicial Excellence www.centerforjudicailexcellence.com
California Protective Parent Association www.protectiveparent.com
Domestic Violence Legal Empowerment and Appeals Project www.dvleap.org
Stop Family Violence www.stopfamilyviolence.org
Randi James www.randijames.com
Court Whores www.courtwhores.com
American Mothers Political Party www.AmericanMothersPoliticalParty.org
Family Court in America www.juliafletcher.wordpress.com
Talia Carner www.taliacarner.com
Protective Parents for Children’s Rights www.protectiveparent.ning.com
Liz Notes www.lizlibrary.org
Many thanks to all who are part of the solution to the crisis in the family courts. You are all true American heroes.
For contact information re: this press release please contact:
Linda Marie Sacks
386-453-3017
09 February 2011
It’s All About the Power and Control, I Mean the Kids - Part Three
“If you want to change the culture, you will have to start by changing the organization.” ~ Mary Douglas (1921-2007)
Monday and Tuesday I gave you my opinion about the Father’s rights Movement, that I think it may have started out as some good fathers and men attempting to make their children’s lives better. I said that I believe abusers have taken that over and ultimately made children’s lives worse through the Family Court System.
After all, it is abusers that want to maintain power and control of their victims and could care less about what is really best for their kid’s. They will twist everything so that it appears to those they are manipulating that the victim is the one in the wrong or that the victim is the abuser.
Today, I felt it was only fair to discuss the various avenues that a truly good father can take to protect him and his children. I’ve already stated that I don’t believe that just being a parent (whether mom or dad) makes a person a good parent. There are men out there that are abused by women and there are kids out there that are abused by moms.
Most of the time men that abused will not seek help; mainly for the same reasons a woman won’t, but with the added social embarrassments that women don’t have. What will their friends and family think about them ‘letting’ a woman abuse? Men are most often not believed either; by friends, family, and professionals.
The reason for these two additional factors is because the way society as a whole thinks about gender. A man doesn’t ‘let’ himself be abused anymore than a woman ‘lets’ herself be abused. No abuse victim wants to be abused, in any way, regardless of what type of abuse it is. An abuser can gain power and control of their victim in many different ways and the victim rarely sees this happening until it is too late.
When a man finds himself the victim of domestic violence or abuse and seek help they often find no services geared specifically for men. The main reason for this is that most men (not all) are not abused to the point that they can no longer provide for themselves or that their lives are in physical danger. The shelters that are set up to help women can’t house abused men in with abused women for many reasons, mainly because many abusers attempt to play themselves off as victims to gain entrance into a shelter to find their victims... horrifying! But also because most shelters are not set up for co-habitation between males and females.
Organizations and shelters can however still help men that need that help. The can help them by providing emergency assistance with vouchers for hotel for a couple nights for their safety, this is one of the things a man would have to know to ask for though... even most women don’t know to ask for a voucher when told the shelter is full.
Men can also call the National Domestic Violence Hotline for Men and Women at 1.888.743.5754 to ask for advice and help in their particular situation. Online a man can go any of these sites (which I found here):
- Start with our list of Programs Closest to You
- Battered Husbands Support
- Battered Men.com
- Battered Men: Research Reveals A Secret Side To Domestic Violence (Originally published in The Pacific Sun, overview of research and stats related to female perpetrators)
- Domestic Violence Against Men (From Oregon Counseling)
- Domestic Violence Against Men in Colorado
- Domestic Violence - Another Perspective from MenStuff.org
- Male Depression.com
- S.A.F.E.: Stop Abuse for EVERYONE
I would suggest that any man who is a victim of domestic violence visit An Abuse, Rape and Domestic Violence Aid and Resource Collection: http://www.aardvarc.org/dv/malevictims.shtml There are a lot of good resources there that can help a man and their children.
There are good fathers out there, I just want them to be able to help themselves and their children without getting sucked into the FR Movement. After all abusers can manipulate anyone, that is what makes them good at lying in court and getting their way, rather than the best interest of their child being protected by the court.
08 February 2011
It’s All About the Power and Control, I Mean the Kids - Part Two
- “Better to write for yourself and have no public, than to write for the public and have no self.” ~ Cyril Connolly (1903-1974)
Ok, so with that thought in mind I move on to part two of this topic, and oh yes there will be a part three... just don’t you worry.
As I was saying in part one, the people who make up the Father’s Rights Movement may not have started out where they have ended up. They originally may have been honestly good fathers and what they have morphed into is the result of many abusers jumping onboard and running away with the movement.
Along these lines the men in the FR Movement have touted and tried to throw in the face of all women (feminists, non-feminists, mothers and every one really) a quote from Gloria Steinem... attempting to ‘prove’ that even SHE sees their side of it, that fathers need to be equal in parenting... FR’s go on with that thought regardless of whether or not the father is abusive.
The quote I’m referring to is: “Women can't be equal outside the home until men are equal in it.”
As far as I can find Gloria Steinem actually said this sentence twice, once in an interview published in the NY Daily News and once in an article she wrote which was published in the Opinion Section of the LA Times. The LA Times article is no longer available but I found the article copied here, so that I can still reference it.
In both cases the FR Movement refuses to take the quote in the context of what she was actually saying. Taking shit out of context is one of my biggest pet peeves and in this case shows how totally twisted they have actually gotten it.
In the interview, which was for the occasion of her 75th birthday, she was speaking in a general sense of women’s equality. What she actually said was:
“We’ve demonstrated that women can do what men do, but not yet that men can do what women do. That’s why most women have two jobs — one inside the home and one outside it — which is impossible. The truth is that women can’t be equal outside the home until men are equal in it.”
In the article she wrote for the LA Times she was speaking about Sarah Palin running for VP. What she actually said was:
Being a hope-a-holic, however, I can see two long-term bipartisan gains from this contest.
Republicans may learn they can't appeal to right-wing patriarchs and most women at the same time. A loss in November could cause the centrist majority of Republicans to take back their party, which was the first to support the Equal Rights Amendment and should be the last to want to invite government into the wombs of women.
And American women, who suffer more because of having two full-time jobs than from any other single injustice, finally have support on a national stage from male leaders who know that women can't be equal outside the home until men are equal in it. Barack Obama and Joe Biden are campaigning on their belief that men should be, can be and want to be at home for their children.
She wasn’t saying that men should be equal in the home, thus supporting fathers being caregivers to young children then turning around and abusing them because they are not equipped to handle it. What she is saying is that women have TWO jobs, which are impossible to juggle from a man’s point of view... but that women do it everyday.
Yes, she does state that Obama and Biden were campaigning on their belief that men should, can and want to be home for their kids. She did NOT say she supports that... she specifically used the words “their belief”.
So, Father’s Rights Activists.... I ask you this, where exactly does Gloria Steinem say you should be allowed to stay home and not work while your children’s mom does and pays you child support to abuse your kids? I must have missed that.
I still stick to my opinion that most of those in the FR Movement are abusers trying to cram their ideological patriarchal power and control down everyone else’s throats.
07 February 2011
It’s All About the Power and Control, I Mean the Kids
Everyday we all hear about or read about divorcing couples fighting over who gets the kids. Fighting over their own children like they are some sort of property to be traded back and forth. There are many people that believe ALL mothers should always have custody with very little to no visitation for fathers; and likewise there are those out there that believe the opposite, ALL fathers should get custody and mothers should get little to no visitation.
Personally I don’t see how so many people can see this issue in such black and white terms. Not ALL mothers are good parents and not ALL fathers are good parents. For the most part the daily news will show us that most child abuse and child murders are committed by fathers, and yes, occasionally by mothers. This still doesn’t prove that ALL fathers are bad or good or that ALL mothers are bad or good.
In the last few years I have learned more about the Father’s Rights Movement, and I can say that I’m more than a little shocked at what I’ve learned. The Father’s Rights Advocates would have everyone believe that they are just concerned for fathers as a whole having shared or joint custody. They would have us believe that their number one concern is actually the children in divorces and custody cases. On the surface if one doesn’t dig too much that sounds wonderful.
However, when looked at further it is easily seen what the real agenda is for the Father’s Rights Movement. The further abuse and victimization of their ex-wives and children. Before I go any further here, I’d like to point out that I fully believe that good fathers have
sought out the assistance of the Father’s Rights Movement and one of two things happens... they either leave, frustrated and still alone in their plight OR they become enmeshed in the bitterness which abounds.
What I see out of Father’s Rights Advocates around the internet appears to be mostly just a bunch of men (and a few women that will do anything to get the attention or have a little power for themselves) who have been abusive in one way or another to the mother of their children and now feel that comfy rug of power and control being ripped from under their feet.
What better way to continue to abuse and control your victim when they walk away than to take possession of their children?
One main reason that I’ve formed the opinion that I have of the Father’s Rights Movement is because only abusers would look at the news we see of fathers murdering and abusing their kids and deny that it happens, or make excuses for it happening. The strict adherence to the ‘ALL fathers should have custody’ line that they feed everyone is the basis of my opinion that the majority of those in the movement are abusers grasping at keeping the power and control they had.
Here is an example, mind you... this is only one search, but there are many like this.
VISITOR ANALYSIS
Referrer
http://www.google.com/m?q=do wifes come back after losing custody?&start=20&sa=NSearch Engine Phrase
do wifes come back after losing custody?Search Engine Name
Search Engine Host
www.google.comHost Name
74-82-64-35.rdns.blackberry.netIP Address
74.82.64.35 [Label IP Address]Country
United States
Why would someone look for this? Other than because they are contemplating attempting to gain custody through the Family Court just to get their ex-wife back under their power. This doesn’t sound like a man who loves his kids and wants the best for them, this sounds like a man who loves control and will use whatever means available to him to maintain or re-gain his power and control.
I never meant for this to be this long, so I will wrap this up by saying... not ALL men should have access to their children regardless of what the FR Advocates say. Likewise, I can admit that not ALL women that give birth are the best parent choice either. The natural equipment that we are born with which enables us to create life does NOT dictate how a person will be as a parent.
Since it is obvious that I have much more to say about this... there will be other posts on this subject.
01 February 2011
Mothers Of Lost Children February Rally in Washington DC
Less than two weeks to go! Remember, there is a meeting the evening of the 13th at the hostel where many are staying. For information on the hostel…click here.
For more information on the vigil or press conference read below or visit: http://mothersoflostchildren.com or http://www.mothers-of-lost-children.com/
SAVE THE DATES
Sunday February 13, 2011
Mothers of Lost Children will hold a vigil at the
White House, 1600 Pennsylvania Ave NW,
Washington DC from 2:00 to 4:00 pm.
We can stay at the International Hostel,
1009 11th Street, NW, Washington, DC 20001 Telephone: (202) 737‐2333
Monday February 14, 2011
We will hold a press conference and rally at the
U. S. Department of Health and Human
Services, 200 Independence Ave SW from
11:00 am to noon, then march to the U.S.
Senate to ask again for Congressional Hearings.
More information: cppa001@aol.com
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Please Join Us For Another Rally in Washington D.C., February 13th and 14th
29 January 2011
Audit unveils court problems
Source: http://www.marinij.com/opinion/ci_17221225
Marin Voice: Audit unveils court problems
By Kathleen Russell
Guest op-ed column
Posted: 01/28/2011 01:59:00 AM PST
THE California Bureau of State Audits last week released its 109-page report, detailing the results of its 17-month audit of the Marin and Sacramento Family Courts.
Across the board and on nearly every measured aspect, the Sacramento and Marin family courts failed to meet the minimum standards required by law.
So you may wonder what the latest audit of the Marin family court means, and how the same report described by state Sen. Mark Leno as "quite disturbing" could be hailed by local Marin court officials as "proving beyond any doubt" that "there's no problem."
Simple. The Marin Court has deliberately mischaracterized this audit as comprehensive and boasted that "the report does not contain a single finding of "... judges and mediators putting children at risk."
Interestingly, the Center for Judicial Excellence and our allies drafted an earlier audit request focused on evaluating "increasing evidence that children in custody disputes are being removed from their primary, non-abusive caretakers and placed in the custody of parents who have been identified as the children's physical or sexual abusers."
The Administrative Office of the Courts — the lobbying arm of the California courts — labeled these "very serious allegations" and fought to narrow the scope of the audit, explaining in a May 19, 2009 letter, "these claims cannot be verified or refuted by the data collected
in the audit."The Marin Court has apparently forgotten the California judiciary's stated position on the parameters of a viable audit.
The audit provides a valuable explanation as to why things remain awry in the Marin family court.
Consider some of the findings: The Marin Office of Family Court Services could not demonstrate that five of the seven family court mediators met even the minimum qualifications and training necessary to perform mediations and make custody recommendations. The court does not document and track complaints and potential conflicts of interest and their dispositions.
The Marin mediators' current supervisor is not qualified to perform clinical supervision of family court mediators regarding its individual cases, as required by law.
For all eight sampled complaints filed against mediators, the manager did not document whether he consulted with the mediator during the complaint investigation. In a considerable number of instances, the audit reported "limitations in their ability to determine the number of complaints received," making their data unreliable.
We must wonder whether the mass document destruction by the court and others during an eight-month standoff with the state auditor contributed to the significant gaps in recordkeeping.
The Marin Court could not demonstrate that its private evaluators were qualified and met certain requirements. For three of the five sample cases that the auditor reviewed involving a private custody evaluator, domestic violence training certificates were not attached to completed evaluation reports, as required by California Rules of Court.
Quality control issues dominate the report.
Because of the national impact of our work to protect children in family court, the center was recognized in October by President Barack Obama and Vice President Joe Biden at an intimate White House ceremony commemorating Domestic Violence Awareness Month.
We were also honored to coordinate and facilitate the first White House briefing on the national family court crisis last May.
While the Marin Court seems unable or unwilling to accept auditor criticism and instead is attacking the center, we remain steadfast in our nearly five-year commitment to try to work collaboratively with the Marin Court to improve its service to our community's children.
We invite the Marin Superior Court to enlist the Marin County Bar Association and other interested stakeholders in a community forum to discuss how we can collaborate to transform Marin's Family Court into a model of best practices that protects children and makes us all proud.
Kathleen Russell is executive director of the Marin Center for Judicial Excellence.
25 January 2011
29 October 2010
Judge Makes Excuses for Step Mom’s Abuse of 5 yr old
As a world society we hold the two genders to differing standards when it comes to child rearing. Regardless of whether a person is a biological parent or a step parent we still hold men and women to different standards where parenting is concerned. When abusive men molest, beat and murder their children or step children there is sometimes a small blurb in the paper and quotes from neighbors say how much of a good father he was. Good fathers do NOT rape, beat and murder children... sorry.
I won’t go in to that too much though, because you can read all about all those good daddies if you click on over to Dastardly Dads.
When women molest, beat and murder kids everyone usually wants to crucify them and call them monsters. Therein lies the differing standards. Women are supposed to just automatically be held to a higher standard when it comes to dealing with kids.
Please note that I am NOT condoning anyone that harms a child in ANY way regardless of gender or parental status!
The reason I’m pointing this out is to comment on the following excerpt from: Stepmum role not easy: judge where surprisingly the judge made excuses for the abusing step monster:
The repeated assault of a 5-year-old boy by his stepmother reflected child abuse regularly happening in New Zealand, an Invercargill District Court judge said yesterday.
Judge Christopher Somerville said all children behaved badly at times and that behaviour could be dealt with appropriately by a loving parent. But it was more difficult for a stepmother to deal with bad behaviour because they did not have the same emotional bond to the child.
Society was made up of people in many different types of relationships and people needed to understand how difficult it was to be a stepmother, the judge said.
It was unacceptable for fathers to enter into new relationships and then expect the woman, who is essentially a stranger to his children, to bring them up.
"The reason it is so hard for stepmothers is that they have been given a child to care for when what they really wanted was a relationship with the child's father. "They seem to come as a package, and it's hard to do. They didn't carry that child for nine months or look after it as an infant."
If you click the link above and read the entire article you will also find that this stepmom, Veda Elizabeth Tutty, had already been found guilty of five charges of child abuse and that Judge Christopher Somerville sentenced her to only eight months of home detention.
Judge Somerville did state that IF authorities decided to return this boy to his father and stepmother in the future, it should be done with extreme caution.
BULLSHIT! This child should NEVER be put back into a home with this woman.
Why in the hell did a family court judge give this father custody to begin with? If this were a custodial mom who had re-married and the stepfather had done these things the MOTHER would probably have also been charged with neglect or at the very least failure to protect.
Why the different standard for daddies?
Family Courts around the world are awarding (like it is a competition) custody of children to fathers more and more. I don’t see how in the world a judge or anyone else can excuse child abuse because it is supposedly so fucking hard to be a step parent.
If a person can’t behave themselves appropriately where children they are not the biological parent of is concerned... then maybe those people shouldn’t become involved in relationships with people that have children already. It is not that hard!
PSA: If you can not manage to NOT rape, beat or murder children that are not yours then STOP dating, living with, etc people that have children from previous relationships!
16 October 2010
PRESS RELEASE: AMPP Stands Behind Christian Coffey HIS Mother and All Their Supporters
Written by AMPP Staff
Saturday, 16 October 2010 15:23
PRESS RELEASE: AMPP Stands Behind Christian Coffey HIS Mother and All Their Supporters.
Please visit the following links for the incredible in-justice being done and the ILLEGAL actions of the Court and Child Welfare Services in Kentucky.
Face Book Page: “Stop The Abuse of Christian Coffey”
VIDEO HERE: Corrupt Judge Catherine Rice Holderfild "Stop the Abuse of Christian Coffey" Bowling Green,
Kentucky Judge Rice-Holderfield Court Whore Exposing the dirty little secrets of family court.
Two hours of questioning of a minor child regarding the ownership of this blogs and many more is really showing how desperate this Judge court whore has become.
Rice-Holderfield sent out her goons today to many persons homes, including Miss Kentucky International Elaine Bateman. What has become of the justice system that they are hell bent on jailing a mother for others taking the stance on this injustice?!
We hope you are proud of yourself by intimidating a child into submission, falsely accusing her of blogging the TRUTH...CPS worker Sheila and Police Officer Blevins. There is a special little place in hell for those who fail to protect and serve....not sure which level...I will have to get back to you on that. In the meantime I suggest you do some reading.... http://whoresofthecourt.com
In this provocative and well-researched book, Margaret Hagen, Ph.D, reveals how expert psychological testimony is a total fraud, showing how the courts have increasingly embraced not a cutting-edge science but, instead, a discipline that represents a terrifying retreat into fantasy and hearsay; a discipline propelled by powerful propaganda, arrogance, and greed.
What kind of country are we living in where the authorities protect a person who beats a child and non-abusers and victims are threatened and harassed. We cannot let this go on.
Freedom of speech is protected in the First Amendment of the Bill of Rights and is guaranteed to all Americans.
Rest of article here: http://judgecatherinericeholderfield.blogspot.com/2010/10/just-some-good-ol-boys.html
Just when you think you have left an abusive relationship enter the family court judge. In Kentucky there is one such judge (court whore) that loves to hand out punishment to all but especially mothers and children.
As I researched the Honorable Judge Catherine Rice-Holderfield it gave me more insight to how this court whore ticks and how she got into the position she was appointed not voted into.
According to http://kyjudges2006.wikispaces.com/file/view/bgdailynews.oct31.pdf is where I found the interesting comments that Rice-Holderfield made in regards to her experience with family court matters.
Rice-Holderfield states, My parents divorced when I was a teenager. Being a child of divorce gives me a special perspective on how deeply this family tragedy affects children. I also could see how my parents struggled with custody, division of their property and debts, and with providing financial support. When my children were very young, their father and I divorced, very amicably, and I faced balancing management of my sole law practice with being a single parent, while always making sure my children were the focus of my attention. These are priorities I also keep now, and which I stress to persons in family court
First of all, just because your parents divorced and you divorced amicably does NOT mean you have all knowing experience in family court. Her special perspective is askew to the point that hypocrisy doesn't even apply to her method of madness. Especially now when Kimberly Harris is facing judicial retaliation on October 19th for absolutely nothing. In what can only be described as judicial abuse and retaliation Rice-Holderfield has threatened jail for Kimberly Harris and her supporters for speaking about her judicial abuse online.
So to make this all clear, Rice-Holderfield is upset because American citizens have exposed her dirty little secrets? With the information I have gleaned from the www there is much more to expose about this Kentucky court whore.
First thing I did was check with the Constitution and it still says:
Amendment 1 - Freedom of Religion, Press, Expression. Ratified 12/16/1791
Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof; or abridging the freedom of speech, or of the press; or the right of the people peaceably to assemble, and to petition the Government for a redress of grievances.
Redress
redress v. 1. To set right, remedy or rectify. 2. To make amends for. n. 1. Satisfaction for wrong done; reparation. 2. Correction. [redresser.]
This is a redress and you should duly note it.
The absurdity and contradictions continue at http://kyjudges2006.wikispaces.com/file/view/bgdailynews.oct31.pdf They pose the question to Rice-Holderfield,
What issues, if any, are important to improve family court?
I believe I’m serving the community very well in family court. I treat every participant equally, fairly, with dignity and respect. I’m always striving toward greater efficiency in managing my large caseload, and to save money and time for the people in my court. I put the focus on the children whose entire lives will be affected by the decisions we make and the agreements we reach in family court. I try to put myself in the shoes of every person that comes into my courtroom, while applying the law to the facts presented to me.
Thankfully after I read this quote I didnt spew too hard onto my keyboard. After we heard about Kimberly Harris and her son we knew that this was insanity, we just didn't anticipate the extent of it. Rice-Holderfield by her own admission is a product of divorce, she has been through divorce, she is a mother...but yet she is hellbent on jailing a mother who did nothing more than any mother would do to protect their child from abuse, it is blatantly apparent Rice-Holderfield doesn't grasp that concept.
Sadly it doesn't end there..the rest of the article here: http://judgecatherinericeholderfield.blogspot.com/2010/10/chamber-of-secrets.html
Family Court -- Unconstitutional Judicial Gag Orders
Over the past decade, family court judges routinely have uttered broader and broader gag orders, forbidding parents in custody battles from talking or writing about their cases. The pretext for these orders is that they are needed for the protection of the child. Nevertheless, it's suspected that more often they are prompted by embarrassed officials who dislike scrutiny and criticism by internet bloggers in the wake of burgeoning out-of-control shoot-from-the-hip "therapeutic jurisprudence" in the family courts. The stated child protection rationale is specious because defamation, obscenity, violations of privacy, harassment, and other unprotected speech appropriately are addressed by the law after the fact when actual or potentially harmful speech can be specifically identified.
These orders are illegal under the First Amendment as violations of the constitutional prohibition against prior restraint. Now one mother, Faith Torres, has contacted the American Civil Liberties Union because of a gag order entered in her case by Judge Debra DeSegna in Providence, Rhode Island, July 29, at the request of the Rhode Island Department of Children, Youth and Families. Steven Brown, executive director of the ACLU's Rhode Island affiliate, called the order a "blatant violation of the First Amendment." Let's see some federal lawsuits. http://newsblog.projo.com/2010/08/judge-bars-ri-mother-from-talk.html
Unconstitutional Judicial Gag Orders - First Amendment - Judges
21 September 2010
Shared Parenting: Number One Cause of Children Being Murdered
Hat tip credit to Annie for saying “Shared Parenting is the Number One Cause of Children Being Murdered By A Parent” which gave me the topic and thought to write this post.
In 2009 every time you turned on the news or read the news you learned of another murder-suicide where one parent would kill them self, their spouse and children. All the experts blamed this on the economy, no one really looked into the reasoning past that. Domestic Violence is the reason, abusers are the reason. When an abuser can not control something, someone or a situation they lash out; many times with lethal measures.
I want to highlight here what we are seeing this year in 2010. We are still seeing many familicides, but either there are less this year or they are old news and not sensational enough to warrant top headlines. This year we are seeing more and more reports of one parent killing them self and their children in situations where there is a shared parenting agreement. Generally shared parenting agreements are forced by abusers to continue their reign of terror and control over their victims.
When an abuser feels they are losing that control for whatever reason they are capable of lashing out violently and lethally. Some may even see this as a way to control their victim from beyond the grave. They have taken their victims, children’s lives forever... leaving the victim mourning the loss of the children and blaming them self for not doing more to protect them.
Family courts play a huge role in this and in my opinion are just as at fault as the abuser is in these murders. By granting and/or forcing shared parenting when there has been domestic violence in the relationship, family courts are basically signing the death warrants of these children.
Rauscher and his estranged wife, Jennifer, shared custody of their two daughters, police said. Richard Rauscher had weekend custody and was with the girls on Sunday, when they attended a birthday party
3 children killed in suspected murder-suicide attempt (chron.com)
Goher had threatened to kill or hurt himself if he lost visitation
While there was a history of violence against the mother — including a 2006 conviction against Goher for beating her
I’m including many articles, just the two most recent; that is enough to get my point across.
Think about it... shared parenting kills kids when domestic violence is involved. Judges and GAL’s need to start paying attention to the family dynamics and know that if an abuser has been abusive to his spouse in the past then when she is not there the abuse will be transferred to the kids.
People who are abusive HAVE to have someone to control. When the main victim removes them self from the relationship and there are kids involved, it has been proven time and time again that the abuse continues... just then it is child abuse.
Don’t just take my word for it... do some Google searches on the effects of domestic violence on children and what happens when the adult victim leaves the abusive relationship.
16 September 2010
American mothers Political Party: Still Standing
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h:135200 s:1211516AMPP is a social movement seeking justice and accountability within the family court system which includes DHHS/CPS, psychologists and other so called experts. We as mothers demand CITIZENSHIP and our Rights to our Children. We demand that our children not be used as pawns by our abuser in a custody dispute. We demand that Mothers and Children be equally protected against court ordered visitation with an abuser. We demand that Mothers and Children be given the same rights, privileges and voice that the abuser gets in family courts! We demand that our President take action now as can no longer afford to be silent and we won’t. We demand the same "rights and freedoms" to which all humans are entitled. Behind the closed doors of the dirty little secret of the family court system, thousands of women each year lose child custody to violent men who beat and abuse Mothers and Children. Family courts are not family-friendly and betray the best interests of the child. Until Mothers and Childrens voices are heard we will never shut up, give up or go away!
20 June 2010
Abuse Survivor Speaking Out
We found this at Tailored Life Coaching, the link to her post is: http://tailoredlifecoaching.blogspot.com/2010/06/survivor-story-survivor-and-kids-still.html
This story was emailed to me to post here to help raise awareness to the issues that victims of domestic violence face.
THIS IS MY STORY...
ON DECEMBER 27, 2007 MY EX CAME HOME AROUND 6 AM DRUNK. HE ACCUSED ME OF HAVING SOMEONE IN HIS HOUSE THAT DID NOT BELONG. AT THAT POINT HE SWUNG AT ME, AND HIT ME IN THE SIDE OF MY FACE. MY BEST FRIEND WAS SITTING ON THE COUCH, AND HE TURNED TO HER AND SAID 'YOU WANT SOME TOO BITCH?' SHE RAN. WHEN SHE REACHED HER CAR AND LOCKED HERSELF IN, SHE CALLED 911. I WAS STILL IN THE HOUSE, TAKING MY BEATING. WHEN THE POLICE SHOWED UP, IT WAS OBVIOUS THERE HAD BEEN A STRUGGLE. SHELVES HAD BEEN KNOCKED ONTO THE FLOOR, WHEN MY HEAD HIT THEM. MY GLASS COFFEE TABLE WAS SHATTERED. MY FACE WAS BADLY BRUISED. THEY DID NOT TAKE PICTURES. THEY ALMOST LET HIM GO, BECAUSE HE CONTINUOUSLY BEGGED ME NOT TO 'LIE' TO THE POLICE, AND TO PLEASE NOT TO THIS TO HIM. MY KIDS WERE AT HOME. THEY WERE STILL ASLEEP. I BEGGED OFFICERS TO TAKE HIM AWAY. THIS WAS NOT MY FIRST BEATING...AND MY BABIES WERE MORE IMPORTANT. I SAW THIS AS AN OPPORTUNITY TO SAVE MY CHILDREN, AND MYSELF, FOR THIS WAS NOT THE FIRST...OR THE LAST BEATING. THE FOLLOWING WEEKEND, MY DOOR WAS KICKED IN 3 NIGHTS IN A ROW. THE WEEK AFTER THAT, HE FOUND ME AT A BIRTHDAY PARTY, AND GAVE ME THE MOST BRUTAL BEATING YET. HE VIOLATED A PFA, AND NOTHING WAS DONE ABOUT IT. THERE WERE NO "EYEWITNESSES" TO THE BEATING. THE WEEK AFTER THAT MY WINDSHIELD WAS BUSTED OUT OF MY CAR. I DECIDED THIS NEEDED TO END, AND I WENT INTO HIDING, AND STARTED TO RUN. HE WOULD FIND ME, AND BEG. I WOULD STAND MY GRAND, HE WOULD ATTEMPT SUICIDE. THE LAST SUICIDE ATTEMPT HE SHOWED UP WHERE I LIVED, AND SWALLOWED AN ENTIRE BOTTLE OF PILLS IN FRONT OF ME...I JUST LOOKED AT HIM AND SAID "I HOPE YOU'RE NOT EXPECTING ME TO CALL AN AMBULANCE, IM NOT GOING TO", THAT TIME HE ACTUALLY LEFT...I WENT BACK TO SLEEP....
WE DIDN'T HEAR FROM HIM AGAIN, PHONE CALLS HERE AND THERE CUT SHORT. WE LET HIM SEE THE GIRLS ONCE OR TWICE, SUPERVISED ONLY...AND THEN THE CALLS AND CONTACT STOPPED. FOR 8 MONTHS, BECAUSE IN FRONT OF HIS MOTHER, HE SLAPPED MY 3 YR OLD BABY IN THE FACE AND CALLED HER WHITE TRASH WHILE DROPPING THEM OFF...IT ENDED THERE. MEMORIAL WEEKEND 2009.
OCTOBER 2, 2009
HE WAS FOUND IN CONTEMPT OF COURT FOR NON PAYMENT OF CHILD SUPPORT. HE WAS GIVEN A 6 MONTH SUSPENDED SENTENCE. AFTER 2 YEARS OF NONPAYMENT, HE IS ALLOWED 3 MORE MONTHS TO ATTEMPT, OR GO TO JAIL JAN. 11, 2010. I HAVE STILL RECEIVED NO PAYMENTS.
OCTOBER 20, 2009
MY MOTHER DROPS MY KIDS OFF, FOR UNKNOWN REASONS WITH HIS PARENTS....THE MINUTE MY CHILDREN STEP FOOT INTO THEIR HOUSE...SRS IS CALLED. THE ALLEGATIONS ARE CHILD ABUSE/NEGLECT, DUE TO A "KNOT" ON ONE'S FOREHEAD, AND THE OTHER'S "BLACK EYE". SRS CONTACTS ME, AND I EXPLAIN...WE WERE AT A FRIEND'S HOUSE, WHO HAS 2 OLDER CHILDREN. THEY WERE PLAYING ON BUNKBEDS AND HEADBUTTED EACH OTHER AT SOME POINT. THEY ARE KIDS...AFTER GETTING OFF THE PHONE WITH SRS, I RECEIVE A PHONE CALL FROM HIS PARENT'S "COME PICK THESE KIDS UP, I HAVE PLANS, AND THEY ARE TOO MUCH FOR ME TO HANDLE". CONSIDERING THEY ARE MINE, AND WERE TAKEN THERE WITHOUT MY KNOWLEDGE, SURE THAT'S FINE...
OR SO I THOUGHT...
THE CASEWORKER ON THE CASE DOING THE "INVESTIGATION", TELLS ME I AM "MINIMIZING" THE SITUATION. SHE BELIEVES MY HUSBAND IS ABUSING ME AND THE CHILDREN, AND I AM TOO AFRAID TO COME FORWARD. SHE HAS "SEVERAL STATEMENTS" FROM PEOPLE "CLOSE" TO US TO BACK THIS UP...FINALLY I TELL HER, I WILL NOT SPEAK TO HER ANYMORE WITHOUT PRESENCE OF AN ATTORNEY. SHE CONTINUOUSLY MAKES ME TO BELIEVE MY OWN FAMILY IS OUT TO GET ME, EVEN MY OWN MOTHER. I DON'T KNOW WHO TO TRUST, SO I QUIT TALKING TO ANYONE INVOLVED IN THE CASE. THIS WOMAN OFFERED A FEW FAMILY MEMBER'S MONEY, MONTHLY, TO TAKE MY CHILDREN. SHE OFFERED TO PAY FOR CHILDCARE, TO TAKE MY CHILDREN. SHE STATED TO ME SHE "DID NOT BELIEVE, I OR MY EX SHOULD HAVE OUR CHILDREN." THEN SHE DID THE MOST HORRIBLE THING POSSIBLE...SHE GAVE THE EX, MY ADDRESS, MY PHONE NUMBER, MY EMPLOYER INFO, AND CONTACT NUMBERS BELONGING TO MY FAMILY. HE HAD ABSOLUTELY NONE OF THIS INFORMATION TO BEGIN WITH. SRS PUT ME AND MY FAMILY, IN DIRECT DANGER, WITH A MAN WHO HAD ALREADY BEEN CHARGED AND CONVICTED, FOR BEATING ME. THE EXACT PEOPLE, WHO ARE SPECIFICALLY ARE SUPPOSED TO BE HELPING TO PROTECT MY CHILDREN...PUT MY CHILDREN AND MYSELF'S LIVES AT RISK...THEY GOT AWAY WITH IT...AND STILL ARE!
DECEMBER 2. 2009
A LETTER COMES IN THE MAIL FROM SRS. THE CASEWORKER ADVISES THAT SHE "EMPATHIZES" WITH MY SITUATION, AND HAD RECEIVED THE LETTER I WROTE HER. WHILE I HAVE THE RIGHT TO MY OPINION, SHE HAS SEVERAL FACTS AND STATEMENTS BACKING UP WHAT SHE "BELIEVES" IS GOING ON. DESPITE HER FACTS AND EVIDENCE, SHE WILL BE CLOSING MY CASE SOON. SHE ALSO ADVISES ME THAT IF THERE ARE ANY FURTHER REPORTS IN THE FUTURE, MY CHILDREN WILL BE AT RISK FOR REMOVAL FROM MY HOME....LATER ON THAT DAY....WHILE DOING LAUNDRY, I TELL THE KIDS TO STOP JUMPING ON THE BED...OF COURSE MY HANDS ARE FULL, AND THEY DO NOT LISTEN. NOT 2 MINUTES LATER, THEY ARE BOTH CRYING. I GO INTO THE ROOM, MY 3 YEAR OLD STOPS CYRING, BUT MY 2 YEAR OLD SAY SHE IS HURT. WHEN ASKING HER WHERE IT HURTS, SHE POINTS TO HER FOOT, HER LEG, HER HAND, AND HER ARM. I FIGURE SHE IS JUST TIRED, AND TELL THEM TO LAY DOWN FOR NAP TIME. WE HAVE ORIENTATION FOR SCHOOL, SO WE CALL A SITTER WHILE THEY ARE STILL ASLEEP, AND LEAVE. THE SITTER CALLS MID-ORIENTATION STATING SHE THINKS MY 2 YEAR OLD'S ARM OR SHOULDER IS HURT. WE COME HOME AND SURE ENOUGH, SHE SEEMS TO BE IN A LOT OF PAIN. I CALL OUR FAMILY DOCTOR, AND HE IS WORKING ER AND SAYS TO BRING HER IN. AFTER BEING ASSESSED AND EVALUATED IT IS DETERMINED HER COLLAR BONE IS BROKEN, BUT IS A VERY COMMON FRACTURE....
DECEMBER 4, 2009
I RECEIVE YET ANOTHER CALL FROM THE CASEWORKER. QUESTIONING ME ON THE INJURY MY DAUGHTER RECEIVED 2 DAYS BEFORE. I EXPLAIN TO HER WHAT HAPPENED, AND SHE ADVISES THE CASE WILL NO LONGER BE CLOSING DUE TO HER "NEW" INTAKE AND REPORT. SHE TELLS ME SHE NEEDS TO "INTERVIEW" THE GIRLS AS SOON AS POSSIBLE. I HANG UP. WHILE AT A FRIENDS HOUSE LATER ON THAT DAY, MY LANDLORD CALLS. HE IS VERY UPSET, AND ADVISES ME HE LET THE WPD IN TO SEARCH MY HOME, AND THEY ARE LOOKING FOR MY CHILDREN. IN SHOCK, I CALL MY MOTHER TO WATCH THE CHILDREN SO I CAN FIGURE OUT WHAT IS GOING ON. THE MINUTE WE GET TO THE HOUSE, THE WPD CALLS AND SAYS "NOBODY IS IN TROUBLE, WE JUST NEED YOU TO SIGN SOME PAPERWORK". 10 MINUTES LATER THEY SHOW UP WITH AN ORDER FOR PROTECTION. AT THIS POINT THEY NOTIFY ME, THEY HAVE ALREADY TAKEN MY CHILDREN INTO CUSTODY, AND RELEASE THEM TO THEIR FATHER.(THE ABUSER) OVERCOME WITH EMOTIONS I AM SO HYSTERICAL I CAN'T EVEN SPEAK....THIS IS FRIDAY EVENING...THE COURT HOUSE IS CLOSED...THERE IS NOTHING I CAN DO, AND MY CHILDREN HAVE BEEN ENDANGERED. NEXT YOU WILL READ AN ARTICLE WRITTEN BY A DEAR FRIEND IN REFERENCE TO ME.
Sedgwick County 18th Judicial Court
Judge Jeff Syrios
Judge Syrios gave custody and granted a protection order of two small children to a convicted domestic violence criminal and the children who are aged 2 & 3 years old, were picked up on friday, 12/4/09, by the Wichita police and transported to an unknown location and the mother still has no idea where her children are. The mother of the little children went to see Judge Syrios today, 12/7/09, to explain the father's past and criminal conviction, father is suicidal, lives in a halfway house, and that these children are in danger, but Judge Syrios would not release the children back to the mother.
This father had other children from a previous relationship and his parental rights were severed in this same jurisdiction, here in Sedgwick County.
Mother had been investigated because one of the children had fallen and broke their coller bone. This was cleared by two medical physicians who noted that this was an accident. But now since father filed a protection order, the SRS is involved again which looks more like SRS is working for this convicted criminal.
DECEMBER 7, 2009
ME AND MY HUSBAND HEAD TO THE COURTHOUSE, TO SEE IF THERE IS ANYONE TO GET MY GIRLS BACK. OUR FIRST STOP IS THE PFA OFFICE.(WE THOUGHT THEY COULD ASSIST IN PROTECTING US) NO LUCK. THEY BASICALLY SAY, SORRY HE HAS TO BEAT YOU AGAIN, AND THEN WE CAN PROTECT YOU. THEY ARE ALSO MADE AWARE OF THE PFA FILED BY THE EX. AGAIN, SORRY, THERE IS NOTHING WE CAN DO, HE RAISED HIS HAND AND SWORE THE WHOLE TRUTH AND NOTHING BUT THE TRUTH, SO HE MUST HAVE BEEN TELLING THE TRUTH...BLAH BLAH BLAH. NEXT STOP DISTRICT ATTORNEY NOLA FOULSTON'S OFFICE...AGAIN...NOTHING. NEXT STOP, THE JUDGE'S CHAMBERS. BELIEVE IT OR NOT, THE JUDGE SPEAKS TO US. HE IS INFORMED OF THE ENTIRE SITUATION, BUT STATES ALL HE CAN DO IS MOVE THE HEARING DATE UP, AND WE CAN BE SEEN IN 3 DAYS....THIS IS BECAUSE ONCE AGAIN, SRS IS INVOLVED. APPARENTLY HE CALLED THE CASEWORKER ASSIGNED TO THE CASE, AND LOW AND BEHOLD SHE TOLD HIM SHE "RECOMMENDED" THEY STAY WHERE THEY ARE AT. WE WERE TOLD THEY ARE "FED, CLOTHED, CLEAN AND SAFE" AND "NOT TO WORRY, JUST SHOW UP FOR COURT"....
DECEMBER 10, 2009
PFA COURT. AFTER ABOUT 4 HOURS OF SITTING AND WAITING, OUR CASE IS FINALLY HEARD BEFORE A JUDGE. ON THE PLAINTIFF SIDE, ABUSE ALLEGATIONS ARE MADE, MEDICAL RECORDS ARE PRODUCED, AND TESTIMONY IS MADE BY HIM AND HIS MOTHER. THEY DUG A PRETTY DEEP HOLE ON THEIR ON, AND CONTRADICTED THEMSELVES MANY TIMES. THE ISSUE OF SRS GIVING THEM MY PERSONAL INFORMATION COMES UP, AND IS NOT CONTESTED BY EITHER.(INTERESTING HUH) THE REAL KICKER...PART OF THEIR DEFENSE CONSISTS OF A LETTER OF RECOMMENDATION FROM THE SRS CASEWORKER, INVESTIGATING OUR CASE....FAXED FROM THE SRS CASEWORKER TO THE FAMILY COURT TRUSTEE....MORE PRIVATE INFORMATION BEING PASSED AROUND. NEEDLESS TO SAY AFTER 2 JUDGES HAVE REVIEWED THE EVIDENCE, EVERYTHING GETS DROPPED....AT LEAST UNTIL SRS DECIDES TO STEP IN, OR CUSTODY COURT ON DECEMBER 21ST. THE JUDGE ALSO ORDER A CHILD CUSTODY INVESTIGATION TO TAKE PART BEFORE COURT ON THE 21ST...BUT I AM ALLOWED TO PICK UP MY CHILDREN DIRECTLY AFTER COURT....AND AT THIS POINT...DEC. 10TH...THEY ARE IN MY HOME. SAFE. LOVED. AND SECURE. THE JUDGES AND FAMILY COURTS WILL STILL NOT PROVIDE ME WITH A PFA. UPON ARRIVING AT HOME, MY 3 YR OLD LOOKS ME IN THE EYES, AND SAYS "IF YOU ARE MEAN TO "TROY", HE IS GOING TO BEAT YOU REALLY BADLY." I ASSUME THIS MESSAGE WAS SENT THROUGH HER, DUE TO THE NO CONTACT ORDER IN PLACE....I AM PUBLIC WITH MY STORY, BECAUSE I DO NOT WANT THIS TO HAPPEN TO ANYONE ELSE. I THINK SOMETHING DEFINITELY NEEDS TO BE CHANGED OR FIGURED OUT. THESE ARE CHILDREN, NOT PAYCHECKS. IT IS OUR GOD GIVEN RIGHT TO BE A PARENT. WE ARE NOT EVEN GIVEN A CHANCE TO DEFEND OURSELVES AGAINST THE ALLEGATIONS MADE. ONCE A REPORT IS RECEIVED, WE ARE GUILTY UNTIL PROVEN INNOCENT. OUR RIGHTS AS HUMANS ARE BEING VIOLATED. THIS HAS GOT TO END. OUR STORIES NEED TO BE HEARD, AND NOT FILED AWAY. THIS IS TRAUMATIZING OUR CHILDREN, AND THEY ARE NOT GIVING THEM A CHANCE. THEY ARE DESTROYING OUR KIDS, AND EVERYONE BUT THE MOTHER'S AND/OR FATHER'S ARE THE ONLY ONE'S WORRYING ABOUT PROTECTING THEM. MY CASEWORKER NEARLY SIGNED MY DEATH WARRANT, BY GIVING OUT VITAL INFORMATION TO MY PERPETRATOR. NOT ONLY THAT, BUT IS BASICALLY HOLDING HIS HAND THROUGH THE PROCESS.....IS THIS JUSTICE? IS THIS HOW THE SYSTEM IS SUPPOSED TO WORK?
10 June 2010
05 June 2010
Women, We Will be Victorious
I found this here: http://americanmotherspoliticalparty.blogspot.com/2010/06/women-we-will-be-victorious.html
15 March 2010
Children Have A Right to A Relationship with Their Father
While attempting to write up something coherent on this news article I found a post on RandiJames.com that I’d like to share with you. I am still currently too mad...and worried for these little girls to say anything useful here! But Randi James put it very well:
Original Post here: http://www.randijames.com/2010/03/children-have-right-to-relationship.html
UPDATED!! AGAIN
Does watching child porn match you a bad father? Maybe, maybe not. But who'd like to bet their own children on it? Any volunteers?
No, seriously.
A father was convicted of child pornography offenses a couple of years ago.
His wife left him.
Subsequently, the father has been trying to get access to his children.
The court previously found that he had behaved inappropriately in bed with one of the children.
But JUDGE ROBERT BENJAMIN ordered that the two children, who are girls aged 8 and 10, spend weekends with their father.
Eldest daughter is afraid.
To facilitate the father's rights, JUDGE ROBERT BENJAMIN orders that:
1. the girls sleep in the same bedroom (to "support" each other), and
2. the father place a lock on the bedroom door for the girls
3. the father have an adult friend stay overnight when the girls are present
Additionally, some UNNAMED Family Court counselor has stated that the girls don't pose a risk to the father, at their current ages, when they are awake, clothed, and together.
How considerate.
Think I'm kidding? See article here.
A summary of the rights under the Convention on the Rights of the Child
Article 3 (Best interests of the child): The best interests of children must be the primary concern in making decisions that may affect them. All adults should do what is best for children. When adults make decisions, they should think about how their decisions will affect children. This particularly applies to budget, policy and law makers.
Article 4 (Protection of rights): Governments have a responsibility to take all available measures to make sure children’s rights are respected, protected and fulfilled. When countries ratify the Convention, they agree to review their laws relating to children. This involves assessing their social services, legal, health and educational systems, as well as levels of funding for these services. Governments are then obliged to take all necessary steps to ensure that the minimum standards set by the Convention in these areas are being met. They must help families protect children’s rights and create an environment where they can grow and reach their potential. In some instances, this may involve changing existing laws or creating new ones. Such legislative changes are not imposed, but come about through the same process by which any law is created or reformed within a country. Article 41 of the Convention points out the when a country already has higher legal standards than those seen in the Convention, the higher standards always prevail.
Article 5 (Parental guidance): Governments should respect the rights and responsibilities of families to direct and guide their children so that, as they grow, they learn to use their rights properly. Helping children to understand their rights does not mean pushing them to make choices with consequences that they are too young to handle. Article 5 encourages parents to deal with rights issues "in a manner consistent with the evolving capacities of the child". The Convention does not take responsibility for children away from their parents and give more authority to governments. It does place on governments the responsibility to protect and assist families in fulfilling their essential role as nurturers of children.
Article 6 (Survival and development): Children have the right to live. Governments should ensure that children survive and develop healthily.
Article 9 (Separation from parents): Children have the right to live with their parent(s), unless it is bad for them. Children whose parents do not live together have the right to stay in contact with both parents, unless this might hurt the child.
Article 12 (Respect for the views of the child): When adults are making decisions that affect children, children have the right to say what they think should happen and have their opinions taken into account. This does not mean that children can now tell their parents what to do. This Convention encourages adults to listen to the opinions of children and involve them in decision-making -- not give children authority over adults. Article 12 does not interfere with parents' right and responsibility to express their views on matters affecting their children. Moreover, the Convention recognizes that the level of a child’s participation in decisions must be appropriate to the child's level of maturity. Children's ability to form and express their opinions develops with age and most adults will naturally give the views of teenagers greater weight than those of a preschooler, whether in family, legal or administrative decisions.
Article 19 (Protection from all forms of violence): Children have the right to be protected from being hurt and mistreated, physically or mentally. Governments should ensure that children are properly cared for and protect them from violence, abuse and neglect by their parents, or anyone else who looks after them. In terms of discipline, the Convention does not specify what forms of punishment parents should use. However any form of discipline involving violence is unacceptable. There are ways to discipline children that are effective in helping children learn about family and social expectations for their behaviour – ones that are non-violent, are appropriate to the child's level of development and take the best interests of the child into consideration. In most countries, laws already define what sorts of punishments are considered excessive or abusive. It is up to each government to review these laws in light of the Convention.
Article 34 (Sexual exploitation): Governments should protect children from all forms of sexual exploitation and abuse. This provision in the Convention is augmented by the Optional Protocol on the sale of children, child prostitution and child pornography.
Article 36 (Other forms of exploitation): Children should be protected from any activity that takes advantage of them or could harm their welfare and development.
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This case is one of many, internationally, involving fathers' rights to their children. We can't all be lying.In the words of Judge Robert Lemkau (California):
And you have an ex parte request calendared for tomorrow which I am advancing today. One of you is lying, and I am very concerned...
...I am inclined to deny you ex parte request. I feel that, if you're lying, there's going to be adverse consequences...
...I'm denying your request, ma'am. I think— there's insufficient evidence in my mind...
...Well, ma'am, there's a real dispute about whether that's even true or not...
...I'm going to deny it, ma'am. My suspicion is that you're lying, but I'm going to keep the custody orders in full force and effect...
...I reviewed it and that's why I'm -- my supposition, ma'am, is that you're lying, but if I'm incorrect, you can always bring another ex parte motion but don't misrepresent the situation. If you're lying about this, there's going to be adverse consequences. My supposition is that you are lying...
29 January 2010
What is Best for the Kids
Dads 'not entitled to shared parenting'
Caroline Overington
From:The Australian
January 28, 2010 4:23PM
SEPARATED fathers are not entitled to a 50-50 time split with their children, and legislation introduced by the Howard government in 2006 should be amended to make that clear, a report says.
A 300-report by retired family court judge Richard Chisholm recommends five changes to the so-called "shared parenting" law, which he described as a "tangle" that had taken the focus off "what is best for the children," The Australian reports.
The hotly anticipated Chisholm report, which was ordered by Attorney-General Robert McClelland after the shocking death of Melbourne girl Darcey Freeman, who was thrown to her death from the West Gate Bridge last year, says the shared parenting law has made it difficult for women to raise allegations of violence in the Family Court system.
A separate, 1000-page report by the Australian Institute of Family Studies, also released this afternoon, says the majority of lawyers now believe that the 2006 reforms favour fathers over mothers, and parents over children.
The two reports into shared parenting - plus a third report, by the Family Law Council - were released simultaneously by Mr McClelland this afternoon.
Mr McClelland said the Government would review all reports before making changes but agreed that a false idea had taken hold in the community that fathers were entitled to a 50-50 time split.
“How we address that is what we've now got to decide,” he said.
28 January 2010
The Mothers Not Found in the Media- (the author/mother was silenced) « A Human Rights Issue-Custodial Justice
I found the below on A Human Rights Issue-Custodial Justice
Looks like she’s still silenced. The page is gone and her blog is empty. (but we have the article) Hang in there Julie- they CAN’T Silence us all!
The Mothers Not Found in the Media
by JULIE LEVINE
Mrs. Tiger Woods, Mrs. Aaron Spelling, Ms. Britney Spears, even our first lady, Mrs. Obama ….all mothers that you can read about on an almost weekly basis. The media loves to cover them and to expose them. Whether they like it or not.
The media does not cover the women who have lost custody battles to perpetrators of domestic violence. Their abusers are almost never exposed. The children in these cases are damaged, their lives stained forever. Over and over again, these children are torn from the arms of a loving parent-their mothers.
When will you read of Debbie, Rachel, Susan, Maria, and hundreds of others who have lost their children in a court system that enables such injustice? Probably never. And the silence is breaking them.
In our judicial system of today, powerful men, dominating men, are able to use the court system as a weapon. Tragically, they are able to use their children as ammunition. The media doesn’t know the women that have fallen victims to our courts. We should read about the personal enfolding of celebrity moms, professional athletes’ spouses, and other characters that are deemed of high interest to the public. Or so they say. When do we read of the other mothers?
No one wants to report on the woman whose husband repeatedly raped his 5 year old daughter. That man was then given sole custody of the young girl, as the woman could not fight the court battle laid out before her. Who would want to read of the woman whose husband broke every bone in her face, over a period of years? He was then given custody of the children who witnessed this horror.
In another case, a forensic psychologist stated that he was of the professional opinion that two boys had observed their father being psychologically and physically abusive towards their mother. Documentation regarding physical abuse of the mother was evidenced. Then the judge deciding this particular custody dispute awarded sole custody of the two boys to the father.
When this woman sought safety prior to the divorce dispute, her husband warned her that she would never see her children again. After custody was "awarded" to this male perpetrator, the mother never had a relationship with her sons again. A judge looked her in the eye and told her that just because her husband had raped and beaten her, it did not mean he couldn’t be a good father.
Not understanding any of the court’s instructions, she contacted newspapers, radio stations, and magazines. In our wonderful United States of America, there was not a single reporter that would come to her aid. No one wanted to speak of her story, her life….It was her own, never to be shared.
Until now.
It happened to me.
In our country that promises protection and justice, judges are awarding custody to men with violent histories. Women that have made their children a priority, are left childless. Many times, these women turn to the media for assistance…only to be turned away.
These are the mothers not found in the media. Reporters refuse to reply to coverage requests, as judges are never held accountable for their poor and damaging decisions. If these cases are told to the public, how are they remedied? Perhaps this is why reporters run from such stories. Rather than ignore such tragedies, it seems that finding an answer would be a much better conclusion.
In order for there to be a solution to many of these horror stories, the stories themselves must be told. Bullied and emotionally battered by judicial figureheads, the mothers not mentioned in the media must be heard. They need a voice. We need a voice.
If you are reading these words, that proves there is hope. It says things can get a little bit better. This is all being told from a mother who lost her children in a court of law to the abuser; from a mother not found in the media.
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