Domestic Violence charges dropped; wife wouldn't testify

I completely understand the fear a victim of domestic violence faces when it is time to testify in court; what I can't understand is the statement that her own lawyer made....both of these lawyers piss me off with their condescending attitudes.  If the video above doesn't work correctly, you can go here to the original post and view the video on the upper right corner.  Pay close attention to what HER lawyer says.  He is the first lawyer to comment then his lawyer comments. Her lawyers comments were conveniently left out of the transcription below which is posted on the news stations website with the clip....

On Tuesday, Kirk Vartanian was facing five felony charges for allegedly attacking his wife, back on June 26th. However, all counts were dropped due to his wife refusing a court order to testify against her husband.

The judge mentioned that he couldn’t force her to testify, so he dropped all the domestic violence charges. Mr. Vartanian’s attorney commented that she had made a wise decision to vow out and not go any further.

However, although the domestic violence charges have been dropped, Kirk Vartanian still faces separate charges in regards to his various business dealings here in the central valley.

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Note: Cross posted from (blogger angelzfury) Anonymoms (we are everywhere).
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Posted September 23, 2009

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BUTTERFLIES & HURRICANES

Cross-posted from Mama Liberty 

“Children say that people are hung sometimes for speaking the truth.” St. Joan of Arc

“I AM NOT AFRAID, I WAS BORN TO DO THIS”

St. Joan of Arc & Mama Liberty

“My child and I have been threatened and intimidated by the possibility that I may go to jail and be held in contempt due to my child refusing to have visitation with her abusive father and she may go to foster care.” Her father has told her this over and over again, as well as Judge David Miron.

This is not the first time that this mother has had to protect her child from the father. Oconto County CPS did substantiate sexual abuse allegations against the the father, he found a loop hole and had the recused Family Court Commissioner, Frank M. Calvert unsubstantiated the sexual abuse allegations.

The system has failed my child, from Oconto County and its CPS worker, Carrie Silbernagel-Burke to Marinette County Circuit Court Judge, David Miron.

This father does not have the means to care for her. She has no bed or a bedroom due to the fact he lives with his mother who only has two bedrooms.

The 11 yr old child is given the choice to sleep either on the floor in the living room or down in the basement. She has no privacy or space to call her own while she is in her fathers care. She is continually tormented and tortured by both her paternal grandmother and father, this is nothing new.

This child has been exposed to domestic violence by her father towards her mother several times. She was also a passenger in his car when he was arrested for driving drunk in the middle of the day. The CPS worker, Carrie Silbernagel-Burke told the mother:

“drinking and driving with his daughter did not make him a bad father, he made a bad choice.”

This was nothing compared to the sexual abuse my child endured and other court ordered abuse.

My child has taken her stand against her abuser, the court ordered abuse and threats of foster care by Judge David Miron.

My child is not an empty vessel, she KNOWS where she is safe. She has not lied to social workers, even with her father prodding her to.

All her needs are provided by her loving Mother and she knows that

“I am not going to shut up, give up or go away!”

“My only wish is for my daughter to be safe and sane.”

If this mother is jailed for doing what any mother would do for her child

the consequences to my accusers and judges will be as follows.

There will be a hunger strike (Troscadh), and all the battles up until now were training for we intend to win the war and expose the dirty little secrets of family court and the criminals that run it.

Change
Everything you are
And everything you were
Your number has been called
Fights, battles have begun
Revenge will surely come
Your hard times are ahead
Best
You’ve got to be the best
You’ve got to change the world
And use this chance to be heard
Your time is nowChange
Everything you are
And everything you were
Your number has been called
Fights and battles ‘ve begun
Revenge will surely come
Your hard times are ahead

Best
You’ve got to be the best
You’ve got to change the world
And use this chance to be heard
Your time is now

Don’t
Let yourself down
Don’t let yourself go
Your last chance has arrived

Best
You’ve got to be the best
You’ve got to change the world
And use this chance to be heard
Your time is now

BUTTERFLIES & HURRICANES « MamaLiberty’s Weblog

Shared Parenting with an abuser is like playing Russian Roulette

I came across this and it really hit me...this IS what shared parenting is like.  With all of the murder-suicides that have happened this year and with so many abusive fathers killing their kids...this is it...

If you aren't convinced please start following these blogs:

Dastardly Dads     The Shared Parenting Disaster  

Intimate and Domestic Violence Homicides in the News

I have always been told that a picture is worth a 1000 words.  In this case I do hope this makes someone (hell even several someone’s) open their eyes and SEE why child around the world are dying daily!

Times Up! Domestic Violence-Is some one bound to hear your cries?

 

Note: Cross posted from [blogger angelzfury] Family Court Crisis-Abusers Getting Custody..!!.
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SUSAN MURPHY MILANO

http://www.susanmurphymilano.com/

AUTHOR ~ ACTIVIST ~ SPEAKER ~ CONSULTANT

When you think you’ve run out of

options…….don’t despair!

RELATIONSHIP RESPECT CHECKLIST

If you are in a relationship, you must be treated with respect, which means your boyfriend or partner:

• is willing to compromise
• lets you feel comfortable being yourself
• is able to admit to being wrong
• tries to resolve conflict by talking honestly
• respects your feelings, your opinions and your friends
• accepts you saying no to things you don’t want to do (like sex)
• accepts you changing your mind
• respects your wishes if you want to end the relationship

When someone loves you; you feel valued, respected and free to be yourself. You shouldn’t be made to feel intimidated or controlled.

Think about your relationship – do you feel respected?

excerpt from: Moving Out, Moving On
Susan Murphy Milano
Domestic Violence Expert and Strategist
Author-Advocate-Media Consultant
Email: contact@movingoutmovingon.com

Times Up! Domestic Violence-Is some on bound to hear your cries? « Whos Killing Families?

Two Sept 2009 Conferences dealing with Domestic Violence and Abuse

Both of the above are copied from:  http://uaadvnewsblog.blogspot.com/

The 7^th Preventing Abuse conference, Helping Protect Women, Children, Families and the Nation from Human Trafficking, Child Abduction, Pornography and Internet Predators, will be held September 11–13, 2009 at the Irvine Hilton in CA. www.preventingabuse.org (866) 454-1776. Noreen Gosch will be a speaker.

For more information about this conference please go here:  http://www.preventingabuse.org/about.html

Conference Overview

1.  Geographic Focus

2.  Impact on America

3.  Examples of Areas Affected by Human Trafficking/Abduction of Women and Children.

1. Health care costs

2. Society and social values

3. Economic costs and impact on

4. Legal--resource drain, etc.

5. Social services and more

6. Victim, and Victim's Family

7. National Security

4.  The Demand:

Areas to be addressed relating to the demand:

1. Demographics of the customers and the perpetrators

2. What is the fuel of the kidnap and trafficking problem?

3. What role does the popular culture have?

4. How the entertainment industry can assist?

5. What role does pornography (hard-core and "soft-core") play?

6. The role terrorism.

7. The impact of the Internet.

5.  Legislative

6.  Law Enforcement

7.  Child Abduction Prevention:

8.  Rescue and Recovery

9.  The Reality of the Problem: The Responsibility to Act.

http://uaadvnewsblog.blogspot.com/2009/08/preventing-abuse-conference.html

AND

The below is copied from:  http://www.ivatcenters.org/Conferences.htm if the links to the info below aren’t working here please visit their website to obtain the information you are looking for!

14th International Conference on Violence, Abuse and Trauma

September 21- 26, 2009
Town and Country Resort & Convention Center
San Diego, CA

CONFERENCE VENUE
Town and Country Resort & Convention Center
500 Hotel Circle North
San Diego, CA 92108
T: 619-291-7131   F: 619-291-3584

CLICK HERE TO REGISTER

QUESTIONS
IVAT Conferences
Institute on Violence, Abuse, and Trauma
10065 Old Grove Road San Diego, CA 92131
858-527-1860 ext. 4030 or ivatconf@alliant.edu

Save The Dates Flyer
Conference Program Booklet
Registration Information
Call for Submissions
Call for Posters Online Submission
Schedule at a Glance
Accommondation Information
Volunteer Opportunities
Sponsorship Opportunities
Collaborator Agreement
Exhibitor/Advertisement Application Volunteer Packet

http://www.ivatcenters.org/Conferences.htm

http://uaadvnewsblog.blogspot.com/2009/08/violence-abuse-and-trauma-conference.html

Anyone CAN 'Ring the Bell'...

...but will YOU??










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Who Am I?

I have only had this blog up for a day or two almost and already I have someone demanding to know who I am.  As if I must answer to this person.  What difference does it make who I am, just know that I AM!

I am that one small butterfly whose wings flapping here will cause the tornado on the other side of the world (better known as the Butterfly Effect)....Chaos Theory

I am that one lone wolf whose howl here will cause the brush fire three state away...Chaos Theory

I am that small child whose cries go unnoticed by our family court that will cause the reform that is needed when I get older...Chaos Theory

I am that mother whose voice is no longer silenced and with that voice I will expose the corruption in our family courts...Chaos Theory

I could be YOUR mother (I do have kids after all), YOUR sister (if you have one), YOUR wife even.  I could be the lady that waits on you at lunch time, or your cashier at the grocery store.  I could be your church secretary or your coven high priestess.  I could be the woman who cleans your house or does your dry cleaning.  I could be your daughter that you abused all those years, come back to haunt you in your nightmares. 

One by one exposing those that have put children in harms way and uplifting those that have survived the domestic terror that we call the justice system.  This is not unique to one country; no, this is a world wide purification of a system. 

It should be illegal to force children to be subjected to torturous and ineffective evaluations and therapies.  But it is not.  Actually it is encouraged as long as someone is getting paid!  Silly me, I thought human trafficking and prostitution were actually illegal; and so they are as long as they are called anything else and worded as to be “in the best interest of the child”.

You may never figure out who I am, and what does it matter.  I am a voice, only one voice, but this one voice can roar with the injustices done and cause that storm in another country!  The storm is brewing on the horizon, you had better prepare, I would hate to see you lifted into its clutches and dropped into unsafe territory.

DMX said it right:

X is comin’ for ya, can’t do nuthin’ for ya

Cause X is comin’ for ya

Run, hide, duck, duck

Cause we don’t give fuck, fuck

Look around at all the women you see...can you guess which one I am?  I am none of them and I am all of them....but which one am I?