Time Has Ended, Bye

Meandering and wandering around online this morning looking for something inspiring to blog I found the video below on YouTube.  It isn’t all that inspiring, so to speak, but it does go along with the theme of the post I did yesterday on exposing abusers for what they are. 

The main point I want you to take away from watching this video is this:  abusers manipulate every situation and will use their own kids to do so if that is how they can get the job done!!!  When the Family Courts are trying to decide which parent would be ‘in the best interest of the child’ to have physical custody they really should pay attention to this type of evidence.  It is a definite sign that a parent is abusive, and clearly does NOT hold their children’s best interest at heart. 

Don’t just listen to the words being said in this video.  Pay attention to the dates and times.  From what it looks like to me, this child is supposed to get to talk to their mom for 15 minutes on certain days and after 2 to 3 minutes each call for months the child is told to end the call by someone in the back ground.

Our hearts go out to this child and his mother!  If you happen to see this, know you are both in our prayers.

 

Do you have an abuser that needs to be exposed like Ray Knutsen?

New Study: Fathers do kill their kids just to hurt the moms

The article below covers a new study that gives us some data to refer to when stating what we have all known to be true for a few years:  Fathers who kill their kids do it out of revenge to the mom … usually for leaving them.  We have never argued that moms do NOT kill their kids, but have said that fewer of them do so and that they do so for different reasons than fathers that kill their children.  Finally someone completed a study on this and the below article gives the results.

 

Child killer study finds diverse motives for men and women

February 4, 2012

Read more: http://www.theage.com.au/national/child-killer-study-finds-diverse-motives-for-men-and-women-20120203-1qxnz.html#ixzz1pCerEfRP

HE BECAME known as the Facebook killer because it was on the social networking site that he broadcast his intention to kill his daughter: ''Bout 2 kill ma kid,'' wrote Ramazan Acar shortly before he murdered two-year-old Yazmina in Melbourne in November 2010 by stabbing her repeatedly. But it was less the medium than the motive that defined his crime.

Soon after that message, he posted another intended for his ex-partner, Rachelle D'Argent: ''Pay bk u slut.''

A new study of child murders,

How to Help a Friend: Cash Raised for Woman in Custody Fight

Many of us sit and ponder how can we help a friend that is going through a situation like the one described below.  What her friends did for her is a good place to start if you know someone going through a bad custody case.  Parents facing this, especially when having to fight an abuser for custody, still need the emotional understanding and support of their friends and family; however they need some financial help to pay for the lawyers and visits and and and as well.

 

Cash raised for woman in custody fight

Updated: Sunday, 11 Mar 2012, 12:22 PM CDT
Published : Sunday, 11 Mar 2012, 12:22 PM CDT

• VIRGINIA BLACK,South Bend Tribune

VIRGINIA BLACK,South Bend Tribune - SOUTH BEND, Ind. (AP) — As Marla Theocharides has spent the last several days across the world fighting to spend time with her two children, friends back home have been quietly going about the business of helping her cope.

They are …

Battered Women’s Justice Project: Custody Project

Source:  http://www.bwjp.org/custody.aspx

Development of a Framework for Identifying and Explicating the Context of Domestic Violence in Custody Cases and its Implications for Custody Determinations

BWJP and its project partner, Praxis International, are expanding recent multidisciplinary efforts to more effectively protect the safety and wellbeing of children and their parents in the family court system by crafting a more practical framework for identifying, understanding and accounting for the contexts and implications of domestic violence in custody arrangements and parenting plans.

BWJP and Praxis staff  have formed a National Workgroup with representatives from the National Council of Juvenile and Family Court Judges (NCJFCJ) and the Association of Family and Conciliation Courts (AFCC).  In consultation with leading researchers and practitioners, they have begun to examine the institutional processes by which family courts commonly reach and/or facilitate crucial parenting decisions, including the use of auxiliary advisors such as custody evaluators, guardians ad litem and court appointed special advocates.  The intent is to identify the ways in which current institutional practices produce both problematic and helpful results for children and their parents.  The goal of this analysis, which draws heavily from the Praxis Audit Process, is to develop concrete recommendations for producing safer, healthier outcomes for children and their battered and battering parents.

The first meeting of the National Workgroup was held in November to lay the groundwork for this two-year, OVW-funded project.  The National Workgroup will meet again in May to begin exploring the role of auxiliary advisors, the mechanics of the work that they perform, the reports that they produce, the ways in which the institution receives, interprets and acts on those reports, and the safety implications that flow from those complex institutional processes.  Canadian sociologist, Dr. Dorothy Smith, a world renowned expert in institutional ethnography, will facilitate the May meeting.

Additional details will be posted as the project progresses.

Judge Makes Excuses for Step Mom’s Abuse of 5 yr old

As a world society we hold the two genders to differing standards when it comes to child rearing.  Regardless of whether a person is a biological parent or a step parent we still hold men and women to different standards where parenting is concerned.  When abusive men molest, beat and murder their children or step children there is sometimes a small blurb in the paper and quotes from neighbors say how much of a good father he was.  Good fathers do NOT rape, beat and murder children... sorry. 

I won’t go in to that too much though, because you can read all about all those good daddies if you click on over to Dastardly Dads.

When women molest, beat and murder kids everyone usually wants to crucify them and call them monsters.  Therein lies the differing standards.  Women are supposed to just automatically be held to a higher standard when it comes to dealing with kids. 

Please note that I am NOT condoning anyone that harms a child in ANY way regardless of gender or parental status!

The reason I’m pointing this out is to comment on the following excerpt from:  Stepmum role not easy: judge where surprisingly the judge made excuses for the abusing step monster:

The repeated assault of a 5-year-old boy by his stepmother reflected child abuse regularly happening in New Zealand, an Invercargill District Court judge said yesterday.

Judge Christopher Somerville said all children behaved badly at times and that behaviour could be dealt with appropriately by a loving parent. But it was more difficult for a stepmother to deal with bad behaviour because they did not have the same emotional bond to the child.

Society was made up of people in many different types of relationships and people needed to understand how difficult it was to be a stepmother, the judge said.

It was unacceptable for fathers to enter into new relationships and then expect the woman, who is essentially a stranger to his children, to bring them up.

"The reason it is so hard for stepmothers is that they have been given a child to care for when what they really wanted was a relationship with the child's father. "They seem to come as a package, and it's hard to do. They didn't carry that child for nine months or look after it as an infant."

If you click the link above and read the entire article you will also find that this stepmom, Veda Elizabeth Tutty, had already been found guilty of five charges of child abuse and that Judge Christopher Somerville sentenced her to only eight months of home detention.

Judge Somerville did state that IF authorities decided to return this boy to his father and stepmother in the future, it should be done with extreme caution.

BULLSHIT!  This child should NEVER be put back into a home with this woman.

Why in the hell did a family court judge give this father custody to begin with?  If this were a custodial mom who had re-married and the stepfather had done these things the MOTHER would probably have also been charged with neglect or at the very least failure to protect. 

Why the different standard for daddies?

Family Courts around the world are awarding (like it is a competition) custody of children to fathers more and more.  I don’t see how in the world a judge or anyone else can excuse child abuse because it is supposedly so fucking hard to be a step parent.

If a person can’t behave themselves appropriately where children they are not the biological parent of is concerned... then maybe those people shouldn’t become involved in relationships with people that have children already.  It is not that hard! 

PSA:  If you can not manage to NOT rape, beat or murder children that are not yours then STOP dating, living with, etc people that have children from previous relationships!

Press release: Protective Mothers march on Oct 1 in Washington DC

 

PRESS RELEASE
FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE
                     Contact Connie Valentine 916-233-8381

A press conference will be held on Friday, October 1, 2010 from 11:00 am to noon in front of the  U.S. Department of Justice, 950 Pennsylvania Ave NW, Washington, D.C.   
On the first day of Domestic Violence Awareness month, advocates and protective mothers whose children have been ordered into the custody of batterers and molesters are gathering to call for an investigation by the DOJ into family court corruption. 

These mothers are deeply concerned about their children. Mildred Mohammad, former wife of Beltway Sniper John Mohammad, took part in the Mothers' Day vigil at the White House on May 9, 2010. "I was without my children for two years when they were kidnapped by John and the courts didn't listen to me," she told reporters.  

As in the Mohammad case, family courts across the nation ignore or minimize child safety.

Research shows that 70% of batterers who request custody receive it, leading to 58,000 children per year who are forced to live with their identified abusers.[1] Many are killed. Batterers are over 6 times more likely to sexually abuse their children.[2]

The social ramifications of this trend are frightening. Children who are abused are at a high risk in adulthood for problems such as addictions, obesity, suicide attempts, heart disease and cancer. [3]

After the press conference, the mothers and their supporters will march to the Senate to request Congressional hearings to investigate these violations of law and human rights.

The march will end at the Sewall Belmont House at 144 Constitution Ave NE, the suffragists' headquarters when, in 1910, they insisted that women receive the civil right to vote.

In 2010, mothers are insisting that children have the human right to physical and sexual safety.  Please visit www.mothers-of-lost-children.com for more information.

[1] www.leadershipcouncil.org

[2] Bancroft, Lundy and Silverman, Jay, The Batterer as Parent, Sage Publications, 2002

[3] www.acestudy.org

Court Sanctioned Child Abuse

I found the transcription below while doing some research about parental alienation and child abuse.  I do not know any of the individuals involved in this meeting, so I have taken the liberty of x’ing out the names to protect their identities.  This meeting was several years ago, so I doubt attempting contact for permission to use this would be fruitful.  For the same reason I am not providing a link to the original document in which this segment is located.

I chose the below to highlight that protective parents have been fighting this battle for several years.  This is not something new.  Family Courts have been sentencing young children to lives of hell for far too long and nothing seems to be being done to put a stop to this.

Ordinary, everyday, citizen’s (for the most part) are not even aware that such atrocities are taking place in the judicial buildings that we as a society pay for with our tax dollars.  Most people never realize that child are being handed over to abusive criminals; until it happens in their small sphere of being.  Then it is an outrage for a time and they resume life eventually, never to think of it again.

Protective parents don’t get that luxury, if you will, to go on about life as if their children were not ripped away from them and handed to the very person that has abused them.  Those children don’t get the luxury of going on about their lives in a safe, loving and well cared for existence.

I ask you to read the below testimony and think about it.  What would you do in this situation?  What are you going to do now that you know this is happening to children around the world?  Will this be one more piece of information that you will half-way process and go back to life as usual; not to think of again...until it happens to you or someone you know?

 

Ms. XXXX XXXX (Nemesis Network): Good afternoon.

This committee has a wondrous responsibility and a magnificent possibility to relieve the silent agony of millions of Canadians. I wish you tremendous success.

I was savagely attacked and viciously beaten by my husband. He sodomized my baby girls. He cruelly and severely abused my son. He blew up pets with rifles in front of my tiny children. He shot at my son and pets and farm animals with an air pellet gun. He attacked men, got into fights, took drugs, smoked marijuana, and entered and stole from cottages.

The Joint Chair (Senator XXXX XXXX): Is all that material in a case report? It's in the context under which we meet. Can you give us that reference?

Ms. XXXX XXXX: Yes. I have to finish the paragraph.

The Joint Chair (Senator XXXX XXXX): It's better to give the reference and then you can finish the paragraph.

Ms. XXXX XXXX: This is my case.

The Joint Chair (Senator XXXX XXXX): Have you the name of the case and the jurisdiction in which it took place?

Ms. XXXX XXXX: The judicial jurisdiction is Terrebonne. I don't have the number of the case with me.

Committee Member 1 XXXX XXXX: It's just for the record.

Ms. XXXX XXXX: The divorce judgment?

Committee Member 1 XXXX XXXX: No, your case. So-and-so versus whom?

Ms. XXXX XXX: XXXX v. XXXXX. Sorry about that.

The Joint Chair (Senator XXXX XXXX): That's fine. When you make this kind of statement, we need to know that it's on the record.

Ms. XXXX XXXX: I understand.

Committee Member 2 XXXX XXXX: Is what you have just stated on the court record?

Ms. XXXX XXXX: Some of it.

Committee Member 2 XXXX XXXX: Please limit your comments to what was on the court record.

Ms. XXXX XXXX: Okay. I will eliminate anything that is not on the court record.

I made my first call to the police in early 1979. We subsisted with a cruel terrorist. I don't know why we didn't all die. But here I am, and what I need you to understand is that my story is the story of millions of muted mothers and silent children. Because I didn't die, I have an awesome responsibility to make audible our souls' silent screams.

The majority of even minimally decent and responsible parents recognize the crucial importance of nurturing the young. It is the child abusers and wife beaters who most frequently sue for and often receive custody of or generous access to their small victims.

The most brutal abusers live in families scared to death of their terrorists. No one tells. It would be worth their lives or that of their protective parents. Often the most severe abusers become known only after the death of the protective parent and/or the children. The rest and those who report are silenced and live a noxious existence, for the destruction pervades every aspect and detail of a lifetime. This is the legacy of sanctioned abuse under our present laws.

Of course, I lost custody. My xxx tiny hurt girls were wrenched from their protective parent and sent to live with their abuser. He subsequently disappeared with them. They are registered in the Canadian registry of disappeared children.

I cannot imagine a surer way to destroy children and their mothers. I cannot imagine a greater cruelty or a more unnatural behaviour than to destroy the young of a species and the mothers who bear them. This is a tactic of war.

Protective parents who stay alive exist in society-imposed exile and poverty, trying to comprehend the incomprehensible and attempting to survive the horrendous agony of knowing what their children are enduring. It is hard for decent people—and most of us are—to imagine that a human could so choose to destroy and dehumanize their own children and their mothers. Many if not most of us naturally recoil and choose to believe more comfortable and frequently dangerous theories. The mind cannot accept what the soul cannot imagine. In our inability to confront ugly realities, we actually promote and sanction reprehensible child exploitation and abuse.

I have used an example to explain a point I want to make. Do I need to refer also...?

The Joint Chair (Senator XXXX XXXX): What point do you want to...?

Ms. XXXX XXXX: At one point, having once again managed to get an appointment with the head of the local youth protection team, the man accusingly and acidly spat at me, “You are obsessed”. At the time, I did not take it as a compliment but rather as evidence of his madness and hatred for children. Now I also see his comment as a compliment, for his statement placed me firmly in the camp of the civilized and he solidly with the savages.

Abused children and their protective parents in custody and access wars are forced to deal with the savagery of ignorance as well as the continued and escalated terrorism of the abuser. Although one cannot ensure an acceptable level of evolution in all who are in contact with children, one can mandate careful selection and appropriate ongoing training for all those who are and will be involved in deciding the fate of children in custody and access cases. Solutions are there, but one cannot begin to implement solutions unless a problem is perceived.

Inform the public with media presentations, for example, as they are doing now in the United States. There must be an immediate way to exclude those who are suffering from criminal ignorance and vested interests that have to do with exploitation and not nurture. They must be removed so as not to continue their contribution to the carnage.

Government must accelerate this evolutionary process by immediately instigating leadership in law-making and mandatory policy regulation that responds to the reality of desperate need and provides redress for those victims who never lost all hope.

Without retroactivity and accountability, the revictimization is lifelong and the perpetrators escalate and continue their reign of terror with the unwitting sanction of much of society.

Ratify the UN Convention on the Rights of the Child, signed by Canada in 1989. Mandate the selection of those who can learn with their soul's mind. Provide mandatory ongoing training and education for those who have been chosen. Create ethics codes and protocols and write them into nationwide laws. Make all laws and policies subject to scrutiny and accountability. Do all this and more retroactively and swiftly. Then Canada may begin to slow the heinous destruction and redress some incomprehensible wrongs.

Facilitate and accelerate the process by adapting programs already used in other countries. Inform the public of all changes and services available. Change existing laws and change the words. “Custody” and “access” are property law terms. The terms “best interests of children” and “friendly parent” are problematic. A protective parent, usually a mother, is most reasonably unwilling to send her traumatized children to spend weekends and more with their rapist/terrorist/abuser. Judges, lawyers, psychologists, social workers and others frequently interpret this sane reticence as unwillingness to cooperate and a desire to hurt the man, and so judges give children in custody cases to the perpetrators of terrible crimes.

Examine related laws. Privacy acts maintain the secret of abuse. Streamline and coordinate the fragmented and often fractious systems, courts and agencies. Increase and implement sanctions. Perpetrators abuse and continue because they can.

Expedite all changes. Speed is essential. Traumatized babies become lost children, tormented teens and agonized adults in the wink of an eye. Why not create a parallel system using existing resources, and the second there is even a hint of abuse this system swings into action?

Without laws there can be no justice—

The Joint Chair (Senator XXXX XXXX): Are you just about at the end?

Ms. XXXX XXXX: Yes.

Without laws there can be no justice, but if there is no justice, can we say we have laws? When the laws of society do not allow justice and even promote injustice, the law of the jungle fills the void.

It has often been suggested that if one is not able to face one's own past one will be consumed by it. This is the responsibility that Canada must immediately assume. Confront and acknowledge our reprehensible past record concerning children, for our society is already being consumed, as evidenced by the violence rumbling and erupting across our nation.

Allow Canada to join other nations and greet the next century with a modicum of morality and some hope of evolution in human rights ethics.

I welcome your questions.

The Joint Chair (Senator XXXX XXXX): Thank you very much.

Questioner: I just want to ask Ms. XXXX a question. What's very worrying in this pursuit of justice is when somebody with a story such as yours says, “Of course, he got custody”. The “of course” is something that's very upsetting. I'd like it if you could put on the record how that ends up as “of course”.

Ms. XXXX XXXX: I put the words “of course” in on purpose. Over the years it grew like Topsy. I started to receive phone calls from women, and I discovered to my horror—and it still horrifies me and always will—that my case is not, as I said at the beginning, unusual.

I'm still getting phone calls from women who have gone to court, naively, as I did, and said this is not really good for the children and myself; I want out—and they lost custody. I think it's almost automatic. We have a sort of black humour in the different conversations that sustain us, and it's like this is automatic. You're accused of wanting to hurt a nice man.

I have problems with the parental alienation syndrome. I have a lot of problems with that, and it feeds into this. I don't have a problem with the fact that what our grandmothers called brainwashing exists; it does exist that people do this. Where I have a problem is when one reads Dr. Gardner's works, when one actually reads them and analyses them, they are his theories, ideas, opinions. They grew out of Dr. Ralph Underwager's theories, opinions. There's no research. It's not scientific. In the psychologists' manual there are already syndromes listed on a continuum, and what some people call parental alienation syndrome fits into that already. It's already known.

The problem with the parental alienation syndrome is that when one reads Gardner's works, and one just has to read one book of his, he refers to mothers as causing it to the children. He does not use the word “parent”. It's very highly slanted when you actually read it and analyse it. But it's a comforting theory. It's comfortable, and it fits in with Freud's theories when he reneged on the sexual abuse part and said that these women are all hysterical. It fits into all of that, and it's comfortable and it works. And the books are available; they're sent free.

The word passes, word of mouth, if you're going for a divorce and you're from an abusive situation.... I must clarify: only abusive situations. I'm not talking about the majority of decent people here. The word is don't report it; don't report it or you'll lose everything. You'll probably lose everything anyway, but if you report sexual abuse, you will surely lose everything. That's the reality.

Questioner: Do you have any suggestions as to how we in this committee can change that and make sure that isn't the case?

Ms. XXXX XXXX: I'm not a lawyer. Maybe because I'm an educator—no, not only because of that.... People I speak with, and I mean people who have doctorates and big degrees and fancy people, which I'm not, are all saying the same thing: educate, educate, educate.

I personally believe, and I'm not alone, that most people know that sexual abuse breeds on secrecy. I think it also breeds on ignorance, like many other things. So I think one of the keys is, as I think I mentioned, mandate training and a media blitz. The United States has short advertisements now on television and radio; it's a blitz right across the country. And it's known that there is a very high statistical correlation between men who beat women and those same men who abuse their children. The correlation is very high. The States has begun this. It's been going for a while.

I think education.... Judges are supposed to know about the law and how to apply it. They don't know about child development and child abuse. The average decent person doesn't know about this. When it happens to you....

Questioner: I guess that's why there's been a suggestion to go to...maybe we wouldn't call them a mediator, but we'd call them early judicial intervention or somebody with the expertise you've referred to. That is the first stop before people get to the judge. Lots of them only want to judge; they don't actually want to do this other....

Ms. XXXX XXXX: Yes, and that's okay.

Questioner: I guess I'm worried that.... Are you seeing that even in people where the perpetrator has been in the criminal justice system, or is it only the ones where it's secret?

Ms. XXXX XXXX: The ones where it's secret. Those are frequently the worst cases.

Questioner: And where it's secret it's not safe to tell the truth because of the climate that everybody knows about.

Ms. XXXX XXXX: Exactly.

Questioner: And if this were done in a different milieu, in a clinic kind of setting rather than the judge's chambers or the courtroom, do you think maybe it would be safer for people to tell what's really going on?

Ms. XXXX XXXX: That is my personal opinion. I think Canada does have already some judges, some lawyers, some psychologists, some everything who are already informed and who are tough enough to take it. I guess “tough” is the right word, because it's not a pleasant task. It must be excruciating for you people to listen to this, but you have to. I think if you could take those people and say okay, we're going to have a separate cadre corps, and you're all lawyers and you're psychologists and everybody that's used anyway.... We have obligatory mediation in Quebec. The minute there's a hint of abuse, conjugal violence or other, a hint, you go to this parallel—

Questioner: Special place.

Ms. XXXX XXXX: —using the existing facilities and the people who are already there, except they have indicated a willingness to take training and go with it at least for a while.

In Montreal they have a special sex crimes unit. They're all crown prosecutors, everybody. It's all the same courts, the same rooms, the same buildings, the same people; but they have special training, which is ongoing, and they deal with it. It just shifts kind of to the left and works.

MS lawmakers decline to expand divorce laws

http://nems360.com/bookmark/5651024 

Mississippi lawmakers have no intention of making it easier for “I do’s” to become “I don’ts.”

It has been more than three decades since the Legislature enacted no-fault divorce. To use this method, both spouses must agree to divorce and agree to child custody, child support, and property division.

Since that time, lawmakers have passed laws addressing with child abuse, sexual abuse and spousal abuse. While a male-dominated Legislature agreed to the seriousness of those crimes, it would not — despite urging of others — agree those same transgressions could impact on a marriage.

Attempts to change the grounds for a divorce, to allow either party in a failing marriage to seek a no-fault divorce, or to require pre-divorce counseling have died in the Legislature.

Conversely, efforts to appeal the three-day waiting period to get a marriage license or put more restraints on getting a divorce have failed.

Lawmakers have also declined to go off into the area of an equitable division of property, on which chancery judges have been guided by a Mississippi Supreme Court decision dating back to 1994.

Opponents have said before making any change lawmakers should be sure they will improve the situation, not make it worse. If a judge does not handle property divisions fairly, they say, the Supreme Court will overturn the ruling.

The late Sen. Howard Dyer of Greenville, who championed the no-fault divorce law, campaigned for its passage saying feuding parents should avoid messy court fights.

“Airing their dirty laundry in public and exposing the children to a disgusting courtroom soap opera,” Dyer said in one debate.

State Rep. Mark DuVall, D-Mantachie, waded off into this quagmire this past week with legislation that proposed adding compulsive gambling as a 13th ground of divorce.

There are 12 grounds for divorce in the state, including adultery, habitual drunkenness and impotence.

“I drafted this bill to address the concerns of a few in my district that had to get a divorce on other grounds, but did not have grounds to get the lost savings or assets repaid them since they were divorced on other grounds,” DuVall told The Associated Press.

Or as House Judiciary B Committee Chairman Willie Bailey, D-Greenville, said: If a spouse repeatedly gambles away the paycheck and “doesn’t feed the children and doesn’t feed the dogs” the partner should be allowed to divorce on those grounds.

However, opponents said the state should not make divorce easier. In the debate, they argued marriage was steeped in Biblical teachings and Christianity. Some lawmakers also said compulsive gambling wasn’t defined anywhere in the DuVall’s bill.

Rep. John Mayo, D-Clarksdale, jokingly asked: “Is farming considered compulsive gambling?”

The bill failed with 40 votes for and 74 against.

Other bills have been filed in the 2010 session addressing divorce. Many deal with child custody issues and premarital agreements.

A couple of bills proposed adding irreconcilable differences as the 13th ground, allowing one spouse to seek dissolution of a marriage using a method not limited to no-fault divorces. That issue also has failed in recent legislative sessions.

Another bill proposes a 13th ground as when a couple has been separated without reconciliation for at least five years. There is a proviso that a chancellor can block the divorce if minor children are involved and a divorce is not in their best interests.

Why Are Moms Punished in Court?

The below was written by Gina Kaysen Fernandes, posted on Mom Logic.  I am reposting here because I know Lorraine Tipton and have posted about her case here prior to this:  A Nightmare in Oconto County, UPDATE: Nightmare in Oconto County, UPDATE 2: A Nightmare in Oconto County

Custody Crisis: Why Moms Are Punished in Court

Tuesday, January 19, 2010

filed under: divorce logic

Talk to mothers, divorce lawyers, and child advocates and you'll hear tales of a family court system that's badly broken.

Gina Kaysen Fernandes: To an outsider, Linda Marie Sacks had the perfect life. Her husband was rich, and they lived in a huge home in Daytona Beach, FL, where she spent her days shuttling her girls to school and various activities. Linda Marie describes herself as a "squeaky clean soccer mom" who "lived my life for my children." Behind that façade, Linda Marie says she married a monster -- a man who verbally and emotionally attacked her for years and sexually abused their two young daughters.

When she finally left him and tried to take her girls with her, she encountered a new monster -- family court. Rather than protecting Linda Marie and her two young daughters from a sexual predator, a family court judge denied Linda Marie custody and put her daughters into the hands of their sexually abusive father.

Talk to mothers, divorce lawyers, and child advocates and you'll hear tales of a family court system that's badly broken. It's one that routinely punishes women for coming forward with allegations of abuse by denying them custody of their children. Instead of protecting children from abusers and predators, the court often gives sole custody to the abusive parent, say child advocates. Mothers who tell judges their children are being molested or beaten are accused of lying and are punished for trying to intervene. Some are thrown in jail for trying to keep their kids from seeing an abusive parent. Women, many of whom have few financial resources at their disposal, are often at the mercy of a court system that is not designed to handle domestic violence.

Linda Marie first suspected something was wrong in 2002 when she received a shocking phone call from a school administrator. Her 7-year-old daughter was acting out sexually, with knowledge beyond her years. A short time later, the Sunday school teacher reported overhearing Linda Marie's daughter saying, "I suck my dad's penis." She received more phone calls from school about her little girl using Barbie dolls to simulate oral sex with a boy in her class. "I was very concerned, these are alarming red flags," said Linda Marie.

She consulted family therapists who also expressed alarm and concern, but failed to report these claims to an abuse hotline. In one of the therapy sessions, the oldest daughter drew a picture that depicted her father as an erect penis on legs. Linda Marie says she once walked in on her husband wiping her daughters' vaginas in the bathroom before school, "because he told me he wanted them to be fresh." When Linda Marie confronted her husband, he ignored and dismissed the allegations.

After 11 years of marriage, Linda Marie filed for divorce in 2004. Armed with detailed documentation, she believed the judge would grant her sole custody of her two daughters for their protection. "I was sheltered. I didn't know I had stepped into a national crisis in the courts," said Linda Marie, who spent tens of thousands of dollars in a legal battle that ended in the loss of her parental rights. Linda Marie has only seen her children during supervised visits for a total of 54 hours over the past two and a half years. "I'm one of the lucky moms," she said, choking back tears. "Some bonds are severed forever. I'm thankful for my two hours a month."

Some mothers like Lorraine Tipton of Oconto Falls, WI, have served jail time as the result of contentious custody arraignments. In November, a judge sentenced Lorraine to 30 days behind bars because she didn't force her 11-year-old daughter to follow the court's order to live every other week with her abusive father. "She's terrified of going; she has night terrors and severe anxiety," said Lorraine.

Her ex, Craig Hensberger, was arrested three times for domestic violence and once for child abuse. His criminal record also includes two DUI arrests, one of which happened while driving with his daughter. The court ordered Hensberger into rehab and demanded "absolute sobriety," but his daughter claims he still drinks excessively when she visits.

Hensberger admitted in court that he still continues to drink, but the judge punished Lorraine instead for trying to protect her child. "My abuser is continuing his abuse of me and my daughter with the help of the court," said Lorraine, who spent three days locked up until her daughter made the heart-wrenching decision to return to her father's home so her mother could be released from jail. "He can't get to me physically. The only way he knows how to hurt me is to take my child away."

"What we are seeing amounts to a civil rights crisis," says attorney and legal writer Michael Lesher, who co-authored the book From Madness To Mutiny: Why Mothers Are Running from the Family Courts -- and What Can Be Done about It. Many judges and court-appointed guardians act above the law with apparent impunity, he argues.

"There's no hearing, no evidence, no notice -- they can take your child away from you," Lesher tells momlogic. If a mother raises concerns or openly discusses child abuse in court, she typically ends up being the one under investigation. "Mom is guilty until proven innocent," he says.

A family court judge with the Los Angeles Superior Court refused momlogic's request for an interview to respond to these allegations.

Unlike criminal court, family court does not rely on criminal investigators to gather evidence in an alleged child abuse case. Instead, the court appoints family advocates known as "guardian ad litem," or GAL, who are expected to investigate the abuse allegations and make their recommendation in the best interest of the child. GALs are sometimes licensed psychologists, social workers, or attorneys who are not necessarily trained in evaluating sexual abuse or domestic violence. They have the judge's ear, and their opinions can alter a child's future. There are no juries and there's no mandate for legal representation. In fact, most women end up representing themselves because they can't afford the attorney fees.

Most moms don't want to take the case to criminal court because they prefer to keep the matter private. Legal experts contend the evidence in sexual abuse cases isn't typically strong enough to hold up in criminal court to overcome the threshold of "beyond a reasonable doubt." While the bar is set much lower for proving evidence in family court, advocates argue Child Protective Services frequently doesn't want to get involved. "If there's a custody battle going on, CPS won't touch it," says Irene Weiser of the advocacy group StopFamilyViolence.org.

There's no doubt fathers play a critical role in a child's life, and in most cases, are equally loving and capable parents who deserve custody. However, studies find when a wife accuses her husband of abuse, more than half the time, she faces a counter-accusation of "parental alienation syndrome," or PAS. Although PAS is not a medically recognized disorder, divorce attorneys often successfully argue that it emerges when a parent brainwashes a child into thinking the other parent is the enemy.

The psychiatrist Richard Gardner, who first coined the phrase "parental alienation syndrome" in 1987, has written more than one hundred articles on the subject, but has offered no scientific data to support his theory. While it's not considered a certifiable medical condition, PAS is widely accepted in the legal community.

"Parental Alienation unequivocally, categorically exists, and it's a form of child abuse," says author and forensic consultant Dean Tong. While he believes more studies need to be done to validate PAS, "it does exist, anecdotally speaking," he says. As an expert witness, Tong has been called a "fathers' rights prostitute" for his work in court clashes. But he also testifies for mothers who are fighting to appeal unfavorable rulings. For Tong, it's about using forensics to find the truth. "I'm not here to protect guys who are guilty," he says.

In years past, mothers were typically considered the "protective parent" in custody decisions when courts relied on the "Tender Years Doctrine," which states that children under the age of 13 should live with their mothers. Recently, several courts have ruled that doctrine violated the Equal Protection Clause in the 14th amendment, and replaced it with the "Best Interests of the Children" doctrine. It's a huge victory for the increasingly powerful Fatherhood Movement that contends dads are systematically alienated from their children after a divorce.

Tong argues the current legal climate continues to put fathers on the receiving end of false allegations. "It's handcuffs first, speak later," said Tong, who experienced that firsthand. In 1985, Tong's ex-wife falsely accused him of sexually abusing his 3-year-old daughter. He spent time in jail and went through "a year of hell" trying to prove his innocence. While Tong was eventually cleared of any wrongdoing, he never regained custody of his kids, and remained under supervised visitation for years. Tong became a self-taught expert on the subject of family rights and abuse accusations. He has written three books, including Elusive Innocence: Survival Guide for the Falsely Accused.
"There's an assumption that maintaining a child's relationship with the father is a good idea -- even if the father is abusive," says Stop Family Violence's Weiser, who believes when the overburdened court system is unable to sort out a custody conflict, it relies on misogyny. She argues there are many judges, GALs, and evaluators who believe that women are inherently vindictive and will lie to get a leg up in a custody battle. "We see it over and over again in family court, where judges or professionals don't believe the violence is occurring," Weiser says.

"All we have is 'he said, she said.' Who's telling the truth? That's up to the judge," says Tong, who believes the justice system isn't working for either side. "The system is not doing a good job interviewing kids, we're still in the dark ages there," says Tong, who thinks there needs to be more formal education and training for the professionals, including judges who are hearing child custody cases.

According to the American Bar Association, child abuse allegations in custody disputes are rare -- occurring in only six percent of cases. The majority of those accusations are substantiated. In terms of false allegations, fathers are more likely than mothers to intentionally lie (21 percent, compared to 1.3 percent). In fact, abusive parents are more likely to seek sole custody than nonviolent ones, and are successful about 70 percent of the time.

After three years of litigation, Linda Marie Sacks says she was no match for her ex-husband's financial resources and powerful connections. "He was buying his way through the courtroom." Despite 10 calls into the abuse hotline by licensed professionals, Linda Marie's ex-husband still claimed she was making false allegations of abuse to alienate his children, and the judge believed him. Linda Marie was kicked out of her home and put on supervised visitation with her two daughters, who are now ages 10 and 12. "The judge legally kidnapped my daughters and won't give them back," she said.

In some extreme cases, a custody decision will be reversed, which is what happened to Joyce Murphy. The San Diego mother was charged with kidnapping after she took her daughter out of state, away from the girl's father, because she believed he was a child molester. The father, Henry Parson, accused Joyce of parental alienation and she lost custody. "Despite my pleas for protection to the police and the DA and the family court representatives, and even psychologists, Mr. Parson was able to convince them and the community at large that he was the victim, and I was just an angry, embittered, divorced woman," explained Joyce.

Six years later, Parson was caught in the act and pleaded guilty to six counts of child abuse, which included oral sex with a child, molestation, possessing child porn, and using a child to make porn. After Parson received a six-year prison sentence, Joyce told reporters that family court's only good decision in her case was granting her full permanent custody of her daughter after her ex-husband was jailed.

Lorraine, the Wisconsin mom who was jailed for protecting her daughter, knows her daughter's nightmare will continue for the rest of her childhood. "He's never going to stop, it's never going to end until she's 18." Linda Marie says she's putting every penny towards her legal efforts to win back custody of her daughters. "I will never stop fighting for my girls. I know one day justice will prevail."

Critics argue that not only is the family court system broken, it was never designed to deal with issues like child custody. The goal is to develop solutions that are in the best interest of the child. "Unfortunately when judges and guardians start thinking of themselves as super government, all sorts of abuses will occur," says attorney and author Lesher.

Activists are working towards making reforms through legislation. "The heartbreaking challenge is that there's not one quick fix," says Stop Family Violence's Weiser. "This is a war -- it's very ugly, it's bloody, and very bitter," concludes Tong.

Linda Marie and Children

Gina Kaysen Fernandes is an award winning documentary producer and a former TV news producer/writer. She lives in Los Angeles with her husband and son.

Custody Crisis: Why Moms Are Punished in Court | momlogic.com

“If I Killed You, I’d Get The Kids”: Women’s Survival, Child Custody, and Abuse « RightsForMothers.com

From:  http://justice4mothers.wordpress.com/2009/08/28/if-i-killed-you-id-get-the-kids-womens-survival-child-custody-and-abuse-by-men/

August 28, 2009

“If I Killed You, I’d Get The Kids”: Women’s Survival, Child Custody, and Abuse

Filed under: Child Custody, Child Custody Battle, Domestic Abuse, Domestic Relations, Domestic Violence, Family Court Reform, Family Courts, Family Rights, Human Rights, Husbands who murder wives, Intimate Partner Assault, Murdered Mothers, Parental Alienation Syndrome, parental alienation — justice4mothers @ 11:16 am

Here is an important paper by Colleen Varcoe and Lori G. Irwin titled “If I Killed You, I’d Get the Kids”: Women’s Survival and Protection Work with Child Custody and Access in the Context of Woman Abuse.” I am constantly amazed by men’s rights advocates, father’s rights folks and shared parenting people that “claims” of abuse by women in a relationship are generally false when so there so many women and children dying. They want to make it a “women’s” or “feminist” issue, when it is really a human rights issue. They try and draw the attention away from all the abusive fathers getting custody of children from moms with claims of so-called “parental alienation syndrome” and claim that it is the “radical” women’s groups that are debunking it. I find that interesting and their credibility lacking if they call the American Judge’s Association, the National Council of Juvenile and Family Court Judges, the American Medical Association, the American Psychological Association, and the National District Attorney’s Association “radical women’s groups.” They have all discredited claims of “parental alienation” and “parental alienation syndrome.”

Here is an except of Varcoe’s and Irwins’s paper:

Child custody and access was the central concern for women with children who participated in Project Violence Free (PVF), a three-year study of formal systems’ (criminal justice, social assistance, and health care) responses to abuse by intimate partners. Although we proposed to study women’s experience with these specific “systems,” the women saw their experiences as similar across services, and talked about “the system” as a monolithic entity. The overarching theme identified through analysis of interview and documentary evidence from the women was that women struggle continuously to limit the violence in their lives and to “make the system work.” We identified four critical sites in which women did most of this work.

For all the women, economic survival was a central part of their struggle. For most women, seeking protection, particularly, but not exclusively, from the justice system, was part of their experience. For women new to Canada, working with issues of immigration overshadowed their other efforts. For the women with children, issues of child custody and access dominated and shaped their experiences.

This article focuses on child custody and access as one of the sites of women’s work in dealing with intimate partner violence. It is based on interview data from the women who were mothers and focus group data from service providers who work with such women as background. The interviews revealed a pervasive tension between obligations to maintain contact between children and their fathers, and obligations to protect children from harm. The purpose of this article is to describe how women work to negotiate formal systems in relation to child custody and access in the context of woman abuse, and how aspects of such systems are problematic. Our argument is that child custody and access processes provide opportunities for abusive partners to exert power and control over their partners and children, and that these opportunities are often supported by policies and practices of service providers.

To read the rest of “If I Killed You, I’d Get the Kids”: Women’s Survival and Protection Work with Child Custody and Access in the Context of Woman Abuse” by Colleen Varcoe and Lori G. Irwin, please click here.

“If I Killed You, I’d Get The Kids”: Women’s Survival, Child Custody, and Abuse « RightsForMothers.com

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Odyssey Topeka Kansas Court Whores Profit by Reintegrating Pedophiles back into the home and refusal to Protect ‘abused’ children and their battered mothers. A Human Rights Issue-Custodial Justice

I was going to post something else today, and I still may do so...then I saw this while perusing posts and articles in my Google Reader Feeds... I have blogged stuff about this case before...so without further ado, yet another update into how this child and her mother are being continually abused by the very same Family Court and Judicial system that are supposed to uphold our countries laws and protect those that have been and are being abused...

Go grab a coffee and sit back and get an education and an inside look at how these things go down....

Odyssey Topeka Kansas Court Whores Profit by Reintegrating Pedophiles back into the home and refusal to Protect ‘abused’ children and their battered mothers.

December 31, 2009 — Claudine Dombrowski

Happy New Year Topeka Kansas Courts and whores of the Court- as you all sit around ‘cheering’ each other- while the blood of innocents continue to spill- your crimes against humanity will NOT go un-noted.

As you see from the letter below- Odyssey-(as represented to myself- and my daughter- and the Courts) and where I made payments for my Supervised Visits (all 3 of them this past year…)

What is a court whore?

“ Those who assist and or collude with others for self-profit or agenda in denying basic HUMAN Rights and access to Justice through NON-Scientific philosophy – just some ones- opinion not a professional but a idea.” Court Appointed Child Abusers.

Odyssey is a Whore of the Court by all definition.  The clear intent of SERVING the PEDOPHILE is more than clear-(oh btw we force the victims of the pedo crimes to participate in- as well you know we will RE-Integrate the pedo back into the home- and call it SAPA.

Therapeutic Jurisprudence must be and will be eliminated from our Court rooms. Whores of the Court Whores of the Court ISBN #0060391979 ReganBooks.

Download the entire book in fully-searchable. PDF format right now: …
www.whoresofthecourt.com/ -

This is my open reply to you Julie- Dittmer. and Odyssey-on expose list (three down) 

1. M. Jill Dykes 2. Judge David Debenham 3. Odyssey (Kara Haney, Drex Flott and by her own choosing Julie Dameron- Dittmer) 

Again, You are mandated reporters, again you care nothing about the children ONLY the blood money from the perps,  the grant money of the taxpayer to give  Sexual Pedophile (and your secure jobs for those who make up ‘treatment’ for) REINTEGRATION into the homes-

But lets continue to batter the mother and child and protect the ‘batterer’ once again- it only stands to reason does it not..?

Protect the pedophile- protect the batterer. Keep the funding rolling in.

Following Julie Dittmer’s idiotic letter below please note the following indexed recording the day after my mother died- when Drex Flott, Kara Haney and myself talked about my daughter going to her grandmothers funeral- and the clear and present ‘danger’ that my daughter is in- as the extreme ‘control’ that her father has over her- and as long as ‘perp’ has control- my daughter should… remain somewhat safe…. listen for your self.

Then listen to the hearing…that denied a child to go to her granny’s funeral- (but they let her dog)

Now, why would I, be anything but upset? go figure <scratching head>

also, by the way;

Dear Julie, thanks for your ‘prompt’ reply. (two months later) I Googled TREC –sigh-

I also hyperlinked your letter- I have made only two comments to your letter at end of letter

From: Julie Dittmer mailto:julied@odyssey.kscoxmail.com

Sent: Tuesday, December 29, 2009 3:35 PM

To: AngelFury@angelfury.org

Subject: Re: — SPAM — FW: Odyssey, Torture and Rikki

Claudine, this is Julie Dittmer. I no longer run the Supervised Visit program at Odyssey; in fact, that program is no longer an Odyssey program at all. (THE PROGRAM IS A NOT FOR PROFIT ONE, AND IT’S NAME IS TREC NOW. ) I left that position to have some surgery this past summer, and have had nothing to do with your case since long before that. It would be inappropriate of me to participate in any contact regarding the current status of your case or your daughter, but you and I both know that I have never been anything but nice to you both. I cannot imagine why you would see fit to wage a personal vendetta against me using the Internet, (and to include my Odyssey brochure, with links to my name) when I did nothing more or less than my job and I got you visits with your daughter, which no one else would do for you at that time. I am sorry if your visits have not gotten you what you wanted or where you wanted to be right now, but we both know that your anger at me and at Odyssey is misplaced. I passed along your past comments and messages to TREC as you asked when you sent the message below. This all I can do at this point, and am no longer involved.

I have seen the Internet links and your reproduction of my brochure, associated with words like whore and pedophile. I would like to continue to be nice to you, but your actions have now forced me to issue you a warning: If you do not remove everything that includes my name, the name of the Odyssey Group, and the reproduction of our copyrighted material from your postings, (including those under your Angelfury psuedonym), I will be forced to take legal action against you personally and against any organization you represent. I have consulted an attorney and am clear that this constitutes slander and is illegal, (Its’ not Slander when it it’s the truth) as well as just plain wrong. Please let me know immediately that you have removed these postings (and that you will post nothing further involving me within five calendar days) or I will proceed with a lawsuit.

(Knock yourself out- I am used to injustice and threats and actions to silence the truth, I have only the truth and it need no public support- the truth still stands.) cmd

Cordially, 

Julie

—– Original Message —–

From: AngelFury@AngelFury.org

To: julied@odyssey.kscoxmail.com

Sent: Thursday, October 29, 2009 5:20 PM

Subject: — SPAM — FW: Odyssey, Torture and Rikki

I trust you will forward on, perhaps it is you to whom I need to address this with any ways?

Please advise and Thank you!

Claudine

From: AngelFury@AngelFury.org [mailto:AngelFury@AngelFury.org]
Sent: Thursday, October 29, 2009 5:26 PM
To: drexbuke@cox.net
Subject: Odyssey, Torture and Rikki
Importance: High

Drex,

  I will simply add to this that I have the video and audio recordings of ‘our’ visit; yourself, Kara and I already on line (but private atm) when my mother died one year ago yesterday. If you recall both you and Kara stated your more than obvious concerns about the ‘control’ issues surrounding Rikki, the girlfriend Julie and her father. You both also voiced your concerns for Rikki’s safety and that as long as dad had ‘control’ she ‘should’ be somewhat safe.

  I need not remind you that you are mandated reporters. But, my goal is to see my daughter pure and simple. I have not seen her since before the last hearing. We have hearing to end this all Nov. 13^th, 2009. I would very much appreciate any positive efforts made in getting a few visits in with Rikki, in whatever way you can before the hearing.

Drex, it takes only one to make a difference. I am asking on behalf of Rikki, I and Rikki’s dead grandmother; to whom she never was able to say good bye too.

Your prompt attention to this matter is greatly appreciated and any intervention to assist Rikki and I.

Claudine Dombrowski

785.845.3417

Domestic violence is on the rise in Shawnee County | KTKA.com

An Interview with DA Chad Taylor and Survivor Claudine Dombrowski

From: AngelFury@AngelFury.org [mailto:AngelFury@AngelFury.org]
Sent: Thursday, October 29, 2009 12:12 PM
To: TuckDuncan@aol.com
Subject: Odyssey, Torture and Rikki
Importance: High

I talked with Rikki last night, she is devastated and misses her mom, she is being told the most outlandish things like I have abandoned her, do not love her, and the latest, that Kara said to her that Rikki will not be able to see me again, as I do not have the money to PAY Odyssey. (I have NOT been informed by Kara or any other that this was the case)

This is beyond insane. I did the best I could with her during our extended phone call, that in the beginning she was reluctant as of the lies that have been and are continuing to be told to her, but after an hour of her breaking down- literally, crying her heart out, she is left just hurting and needing very much closure on this CONTROL that dad has over OUR parenting time. And a chance to being to heal.

Also please be aware that she is being told to say the same things to the court, only her knowledge and what she is ordered to tell. She trusts NO ONE. She is scared and aches for her mom and her grandma. I am still here however.

FYI:

Although I do not have two dimes to rub together at the moment- I am in a clean safe 2 bedroom apartment. Rikki knows where, She has always known where I am at (even if car only) this is done as well through the Safe at Home, Address Confidential Program through the Secretary of State. http://www.kssos.org/safeathome/

When Hoffman and the GAL from hell demand address – as with all enrolled with children ONLY the attorney General has access to knowledge of residence.

That is all that is needed in the lifting of the Supervised visits (which NEVER should have been imposed to begin with). The Leadership Council Just released: Domestic Violence by Proxy. I have never been shown to be a flight risk any more than a danger to my almost age 15 year old daughter.

This little girl (my only daughter) is in tremendous amounts of pain, unbearable and healing from what this system has done to her by so viciously taking her mother away is imperative to her ever being able to recover.

See the KS AG’s web site for Silverman, Jaffe and Bancroft research showing that children’s relationship with their mother is VITAL to their own self recovery. (I helped get this info into the State by THIS case alone)

Tuck, please make this end for my daughter’s sake- please. Having her mother dead or homeless or in ‘CONTROL” via SV is NOT going to help her. Rikki and I discussed this, and although she is being told to say she wants it- she does not. She wants her mom. Needs her mom.

Please respond when you can I am sure that you already have it worked out and that I as well as Rikki, just need to be patient a little while longer, Nov. 13^th. For Justice to begin its slow turn, bear in mind however that both of us are suffering as a result of the wait so please do not allow any continuations, or deviations from the hearing.

Please, I implore you, and graciously thank you for all your help, as does Rikki. We are both beyond exhausted.

Sincerely,

Claudine Dombrowski

785.845.3417

PBS Documentary: Breaking the Silence; Children’s Stories

Family Law Documentary: Crisis in America’s Family Courts; Our Children at Risk

Leadership Council recommends For further information:

• Are Protective Parents Losing Custody to Alleged Abusers? Evidence shows that women who raise concerns about family violence during custody litigation run the risk of losing their children.
• Stopfamilyviolence.org: The people’s voice for family peace. Stop Family Violence is a national grassroots organization with a mission to organize and amplify our nation’s collective voice against family violence.
• CA3 -Children Against Court Appointed Child Abuse
• High-conflict divorce or stalking by way of family court? Massachusetts Family Law Journal, 2004.http://www.mincava.umn.edu/reports/linda.asp
• Hoult, Jennifer. (Spring 2006). The Evidentiary Admissibility of Parental Alienation Syndrome: Science, Law, and Policy,Children’s Legal Rights Journal, 26(1) pp. 1-61. (download PDF)

http://angelfury.podbean.com

10-29-2008 1h 50m

Index

8:5010:28 begins

13:2914:13 Kira petition what do you want and the court hearing set

16:07 -what is our involvement

17:00- contact with rikki

17:50- lacey [the dog]

18:43- motion 4 hearing asking for normalcy in visits

20:19 -about the motion being filed rikki not on the kid more convenient for dad?

21:45 -dependent upon her peers give her money

22.35- $20.00 to e

22.53 -denied braces no phone-denied contact with her phone

23.55 -it is not up to rikki

25.00 -dad broke my mouth but don’t place psych eval.

26:12- power struggle with courts (I acted out)

27:00 -we deserve this trip together

29:00- I drove twice week I worked at LSH

30:10- rikki –‘granny won’t let dad hurt mom’

30:00 -(15 years)

32:00 KsJudicialperformance act (liz samora

33.00 drex more than we know.

34.00 try loosing a child to an abuser I thought- I had the right to be safe

36:00 my mom my pain not going to let that happen to my daughter.

BMCC two years’ courageous kids

38:00 not a part of my life

39:00

41:00- how come dad don’t love me (rikki)

43:00- rikki is awesome drex says ‘I am in her’ ag ’s office- rikki early years 4 or 5 years old

46:50 – when they took my daughter they took my soul

47:00- letter from hospital

48:50 -contact with GAL braces Aug 6th en re braces

51:58 Rikki says ‘dad is in charge (dont write this down)

53:33- kira a couple of issues 1. Funeral 2. Unsupervised

1:15:30 does rikki want to go en re the court

1:17:15 rikkis voice well rikki says

1:19:50 Kira- ‘rikki does have a very controlled home a lot of external Control

1:21:50 for rikkis safety- choose to disengage as I am not safe for her- this is how are lives are-

1:23:25- admissions of abuse

1:26:40 -how rikki survives- Julie- takes a lot for rikki

1:28:28 Julie is in fear too -rikki is the best judge

1:30:00 visits are very empowering very balanced positive strength based

1:33:20 sv is not there gives us freedom rikki and I freedom? to monitor at discretion we don’t need help to nurture our relationship states kira

1:37:23 visits don’t cut my visits drex reintegration reunification

1:38:36 visits went back because julie and rikki to cancel the visit so they just set them back temporary football season-Rikki in a double binder-

1:41:13 – kira -rikki struggled with telling mom no more weekends. drex- I cry a lot- national zone

1:48:40 end

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Petition to Reunite Lora Brislin with her two daughters Megan and Elizabeth: We, the undersigned, are standing together in an attempt to speak for these little ones who are not allowed to speak for themselves and, in order to prevent further destruction in their lives, we are asking that this case be revisited and that The Truth finally be brought into The Light so that justice can prevail: http://www.thepetitionsite.com/1/reunite-lora-brislin-two-daughters

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Lora Brislin is the mother of two daughters ages 6 and 4. Lora has not spoken to or seen her daughters since April of this year (2009). In May Judge Phyllis Miller of Gwinnett County, Georgia ordered that ALL custody and visitation be taken from Lora, and that the girls be in the sole custody of their father and his new wife.

Lora endured 5 years of physical and mental abuse at the

hands of her former husband, the father of their 2 girls. During which time he, repeatedly hit Lora as well as stalked, harassed, and verbally abused her.

During their marriage the father wanted nothing to do with their two daughters. When Lora finally found the courage to leave her abuser in October of 2006, the father suddenly became adamant in 2007 after advice of his attorney to start exercising his visitation because he was not doing so. Not only did he get visitation of these children, he began threatening to take custody away from Lora Brislin.

Lora has been the one, for two years now who has had to endure a battery of psychological tests, chastisement and ridicule from the courts, and little help on the part of law enforcement officials. For two years, Ms. Brislin has heard numerous pleas of help from her daughters and has tried to make the courts listen to her and her children and, once and for all, hear the TRUTH. Instead, she was laughed at by the courts, told she was making false allegations against their father, and was a menace to her children. On May 7, 2009 the father was awarded sole custody and Lora was to have no contact with her daughters whatsoever by their Judge who has since been disbarred this July 2009.

The father served a lengthy term in jail as a result of his criminal activity.  In one of his previous marriages, not only did he also abuse his former wife as well.  He abandoned his son and gave up his parental rights in exchange for child support (not having to pay).

Lora Brislin, along with the undersigned, is confused by this outrageous injustice by the court. Ms. Brislin is not the only loving and responsible mother who has had her children literally ripped from her arms and placed in the sole custody of an abusive father. We are asking that this case be reopened and investigated.  We ask that this egregious injustice be dealt with, and that Lora and her daughters be reunited. If the sisters were placed in a neutral setting during this process and their safety assured to them, they would most likely state that they do not feel safe with their father and wish to be able to live with their mother.  They were “whipped” into silence and at one point made to say it was their mother who was the alleged molester when they were accompanied by their father to interviews. 

This grave misuse of power cannot be stood for! Clearly there is some reason other than simply poor judgment on the part of the courts that has caused Lora Brislin to lose all contact with her children. No matter what that hidden agenda might be, if the court decision is allowed to stand the Gwinnett County court system will be continuing to place these children in harms way and be punishing their mother for trying to protect them! NO CHILD OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IN THIS STATE CAN BE CONSIDERED SAFE IF WE CANNOT GET THESE SISTERS SAFE!

There are men and women all over the country as well as all over the world, who are watching to see what is done about this horrific case of court-ordered abuse. We believe that if government officials do not intervene in cases like this in which a clear misuse of power has destroyed the lives of two young children and their mother, then the government should be seen as, not only negligent, but as condoning this outrageous behavior on the part of judges who seemingly, has to answer to no one!

Our family court system was supposed to have been put in place for the purpose of aiding families, and in cases where abuse is involved, supporting the protective parent, thereby ensuring the safety of innocent and defenseless children. In this case, however, it appears that the very system that was put into place for the purpose of protecting children is, instead, aiding in the traumatizing of these helpless victims.

Update December 8, 2009: I just wanted to let members know that though we have been threatened legal action if this and similar sites were not taken down, this will not deter us in our fight for TRUTH and JUSTICE. We are not interested in clouding issues, we want to bring the truth into the light and if this upsets people, then they must have… something to hide. We have obviously hit a nerve and we got a reaction. We will continue to advocate for the Brislin sisters until a true, ethical and indepth investigation is completed. Not limited to polygraphs and the reopening of former documented evidence.

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Petition to Reunite Lora Brislin with her two daughters Megan and Elizabeth: We, the undersigned, are standing together in an attempt to speak for these little ones who are not allowed to speak for themselves and, in order to prevent further destruction in their lives, we are asking that this case be revisited and that The Truth finally be brought into The Light so that justice can prevail: http://www.thepetitionsite.com/1/reunite-lora-brislin-two-daughters

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